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Topic Started: Jan 21 2008, 12:16 PM (14,670 Views)
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mindcutie
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Feb 28 2008, 04:26 PM
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- AndyW76,Feb 28 2008
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I guess some people can't take a hint. If someone turns you down, you might as well move on.
Maybe they are just lonely...
I guess some are, but that doesn't justify scaring 7 bells of sh*it out of the object of their affection. I knew a guy who had a 15 minute conversation with a total stranger on a train. 3 years later he was arrested for stalking her and given a suspended prison sentence. He used to follow her when she took her kids to school or just follow her in general. The poor woman was terrified. He didn't even stop when the police warned him off. I can understand that he might have been lonely and that he "liked" the woman, but she didn't feel the same way and he was making her life hell. When ever I have been turned down by someone I fancy, I just let it go. OK, it hurts a bit but I'd rather do that than end up making someone I like hate me.
The people you are refering to are sick I think. Being lonely and being mentally ill are two different things.
I donīt think my former neighbour is mentally ill, heīs just lonely and a bit weird but you never know.
People like that can make your life hell
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Lord Tau
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Feb 28 2008, 04:27 PM
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I guess some people can't take a hint. If someone turns you down, you might as well move on.
Quite right. The number of times I've been turned down, I'm well aware of this!!
Who turns down Tau?
Lots of people. Most women "like me as a friend". Which is OK, I guess.
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mindcutie
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Feb 28 2008, 04:29 PM
Post #168
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- AndyW76,Feb 28 2008
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I guess some people can't take a hint. If someone turns you down, you might as well move on.
Quite right. The number of times I've been turned down, I'm well aware of this!!
Who turns down Tau?
Lots of people. Most women "like me as a friend". Which is OK, I guess.
It is ok, but does that mean actual friendship or just saying hello when you pass each other on the street?
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Lord Tau
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Feb 28 2008, 04:32 PM
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- AndyW76,Feb 28 2008
- 04:06 PM
I guess some people can't take a hint. If someone turns you down, you might as well move on.
Quite right. The number of times I've been turned down, I'm well aware of this!!
Who turns down Tau?
Lots of people. Most women "like me as a friend". Which is OK, I guess.
It is ok, but does that mean actual friendship or just saying hello when you pass each other on the street?
In my experience, it tends to mean "I'm not going to go out with you, but I might need your assistance one day, so I'll be your friend as long as you remain useful to me,"
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AndyW76
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Feb 28 2008, 04:34 PM
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- mindcutie,Feb 28 2008
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QUOTE (AndyW76 @ Feb 28 2008, 07:06 PM) - Quote:
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I guess some people can't take a hint. If someone turns you down, you might as well move on.
Maybe they are just lonely...
I guess some are, but that doesn't justify scaring 7 bells of sh*it out of the object of their affection. I knew a guy who had a 15 minute conversation with a total stranger on a train. 3 years later he was arrested for stalking her and given a suspended prison sentence. He used to follow her when she took her kids to school or just follow her in general. The poor woman was terrified. He didn't even stop when the police warned him off. I can understand that he might have been lonely and that he "liked" the woman, but she didn't feel the same way and he was making her life hell. When ever I have been turned down by someone I fancy, I just let it go. OK, it hurts a bit but I'd rather do that than end up making someone I like hate me.
The people you are refering to are sick I think. Being lonely and being mentally ill are two different things. I donīt think my former neighbour is mentally ill, heīs just lonely and a bit weird but you never know. People like that can make your life hell
I know many of these "admirers" are harmless, but you never know. The guy from my local that fancies the bar maid doesn't look threatening but he has a conviction for "exposing himself". OK, it was along time ago but it is still a tatd disturbing. Mostly some people make a nuisence of themselves and they end up being disliked by the person they fancy. If someone doesn't want your affection, you aren't always able to change their mind and sometimes it can have the opposite affect.
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mindcutie
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Feb 28 2008, 04:38 PM
Post #171
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- Lord Tau,Feb 28 2008
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- mindcutie,Feb 28 2008
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- Lord Tau,Feb 28 2008
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- mindcutie,Feb 28 2008
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- Lord Tau,Feb 28 2008
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- AndyW76,Feb 28 2008
- 04:06 PM
I guess some people can't take a hint. If someone turns you down, you might as well move on.
Quite right. The number of times I've been turned down, I'm well aware of this!!
Who turns down Tau?
Lots of people. Most women "like me as a friend". Which is OK, I guess.
It is ok, but does that mean actual friendship or just saying hello when you pass each other on the street?
In my experience, it tends to mean "I'm not going to go out with you, but I might need your assistance one day, so I'll be your friend as long as you remain useful to me,"
Then you should not be friends with them
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mindcutie
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Feb 28 2008, 04:41 PM
Post #172
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I guess some people can't take a hint. If someone turns you down, you might as well move on.
Maybe they are just lonely...
I guess some are, but that doesn't justify scaring 7 bells of sh*it out of the object of their affection. I knew a guy who had a 15 minute conversation with a total stranger on a train. 3 years later he was arrested for stalking her and given a suspended prison sentence. He used to follow her when she took her kids to school or just follow her in general. The poor woman was terrified. He didn't even stop when the police warned him off. I can understand that he might have been lonely and that he "liked" the woman, but she didn't feel the same way and he was making her life hell. When ever I have been turned down by someone I fancy, I just let it go. OK, it hurts a bit but I'd rather do that than end up making someone I like hate me.
The people you are refering to are sick I think. Being lonely and being mentally ill are two different things. I donīt think my former neighbour is mentally ill, heīs just lonely and a bit weird but you never know. People like that can make your life hell
I know many of these "admirers" are harmless, but you never know. The guy from my local that fancies the bar maid doesn't look threatening but he has a conviction for "exposing himself". OK, it was along time ago but it is still a tatd disturbing. Mostly some people make a nuisence of themselves and they end up being disliked by the person they fancy. If someone doesn't want your affection, you aren't always able to change their mind and sometimes it can have the opposite affect.
True.
I donīt want to be stalked (?) or anything like that but I do like when someone doesnīt give up too easily.
Does that make any sense
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AndyW76
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Feb 28 2008, 04:41 PM
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- Lord Tau,Feb 28 2008
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- mindcutie,Feb 28 2008
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- Lord Tau,Feb 28 2008
- 07:20 PM
- AndyW76,Feb 28 2008
- 04:06 PM
I guess some people can't take a hint. If someone turns you down, you might as well move on.
Quite right. The number of times I've been turned down, I'm well aware of this!!
Who turns down Tau?
Lots of people. Most women "like me as a friend". Which is OK, I guess.
It is ok, but does that mean actual friendship or just saying hello when you pass each other on the street?
In my experience, it tends to mean "I'm not going to go out with you, but I might need your assistance one day, so I'll be your friend as long as you remain useful to me,"
I don't know, I've been friends with women that genuinely enjoyed my company, yet weren't romantically interested in me. As much as I might have fancied them, I wouldn't persue a romantic interest after they said no as it would spoil the friendship.
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Lord Tau
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Feb 28 2008, 04:42 PM
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- mindcutie,Feb 28 2008
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- mindcutie,Feb 28 2008
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- Lord Tau,Feb 28 2008
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- mindcutie,Feb 28 2008
- 04:23 PM
- Lord Tau,Feb 28 2008
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- AndyW76,Feb 28 2008
- 04:06 PM
I guess some people can't take a hint. If someone turns you down, you might as well move on.
Quite right. The number of times I've been turned down, I'm well aware of this!!
Who turns down Tau?
Lots of people. Most women "like me as a friend". Which is OK, I guess.
It is ok, but does that mean actual friendship or just saying hello when you pass each other on the street?
In my experience, it tends to mean "I'm not going to go out with you, but I might need your assistance one day, so I'll be your friend as long as you remain useful to me,"
Then you should not be friends with them
I'm not anymore - once I found out what they were up to.
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Lord Tau
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Feb 28 2008, 04:44 PM
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- AndyW76,Feb 28 2008
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- Lord Tau,Feb 28 2008
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- mindcutie,Feb 28 2008
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- Lord Tau,Feb 28 2008
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- AndyW76,Feb 28 2008
- 04:06 PM
I guess some people can't take a hint. If someone turns you down, you might as well move on.
Quite right. The number of times I've been turned down, I'm well aware of this!!
Who turns down Tau?
Lots of people. Most women "like me as a friend". Which is OK, I guess.
It is ok, but does that mean actual friendship or just saying hello when you pass each other on the street?
In my experience, it tends to mean "I'm not going to go out with you, but I might need your assistance one day, so I'll be your friend as long as you remain useful to me,"
I don't know, I've been friends with women that genuinely enjoyed my company, yet weren't romantically interested in me. As much as I might have fancied them, I wouldn't persue a romantic interest after they said no as it would spoil the friendship.
Ah no, you misunderstand me. I too have many female friends with whom I have no romantic interest in.
The example I mentioned was one particular person who knew I liked her in that way, and responded accordingly - which I was quite happy about, until I discovered that she'd been seeing my best mate and only seemed interested in me so that I'd help her out with a couple of things. This has actually happened twice, with the story varying a little bit between the two events.
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AndyW76
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Feb 28 2008, 04:45 PM
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- mindcutie,Feb 28 2008
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I guess some people can't take a hint. If someone turns you down, you might as well move on.
Maybe they are just lonely...
I guess some are, but that doesn't justify scaring 7 bells of sh*it out of the object of their affection. I knew a guy who had a 15 minute conversation with a total stranger on a train. 3 years later he was arrested for stalking her and given a suspended prison sentence. He used to follow her when she took her kids to school or just follow her in general. The poor woman was terrified. He didn't even stop when the police warned him off. I can understand that he might have been lonely and that he "liked" the woman, but she didn't feel the same way and he was making her life hell. When ever I have been turned down by someone I fancy, I just let it go. OK, it hurts a bit but I'd rather do that than end up making someone I like hate me.
The people you are refering to are sick I think. Being lonely and being mentally ill are two different things. I donīt think my former neighbour is mentally ill, heīs just lonely and a bit weird but you never know. People like that can make your life hell
I know many of these "admirers" are harmless, but you never know. The guy from my local that fancies the bar maid doesn't look threatening but he has a conviction for "exposing himself". OK, it was along time ago but it is still a tatd disturbing. Mostly some people make a nuisence of themselves and they end up being disliked by the person they fancy. If someone doesn't want your affection, you aren't always able to change their mind and sometimes it can have the opposite affect.
True. I donīt want to be stalked (?) or anything like that but I do like when someone doesnīt give up too easily. Does that make any sense
Well, I guess you shouldn't pull up at the first hurdle.
Though trying too hard can look bad.
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mindcutie
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Feb 28 2008, 04:46 PM
Post #177
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Is there a difference between a mate and a friend?
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Lord Tau
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Feb 28 2008, 04:47 PM
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- mindcutie,Feb 28 2008
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Is there a difference between a mate and a friend?
Technically, they are the same thing.
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Feb 28 2008, 04:47 PM
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- Lord Tau,Feb 28 2008
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- mindcutie,Feb 28 2008
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- Lord Tau,Feb 28 2008
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- mindcutie,Feb 28 2008
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- Lord Tau,Feb 28 2008
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- AndyW76,Feb 28 2008
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I guess some people can't take a hint. If someone turns you down, you might as well move on.
Quite right. The number of times I've been turned down, I'm well aware of this!!
Who turns down Tau?
Lots of people. Most women "like me as a friend". Which is OK, I guess.
It is ok, but does that mean actual friendship or just saying hello when you pass each other on the street?
In my experience, it tends to mean "I'm not going to go out with you, but I might need your assistance one day, so I'll be your friend as long as you remain useful to me,"
I don't know, I've been friends with women that genuinely enjoyed my company, yet weren't romantically interested in me. As much as I might have fancied them, I wouldn't persue a romantic interest after they said no as it would spoil the friendship.
Ah no, you misunderstand me. I too have many female friends with whom I have no romantic interest in. The example I mentioned was one particular person who knew I liked her in that way, and responded accordingly - which I was quite happy about, until I discovered that she'd been seeing my best mate and only seemed interested in me so that I'd help her out with a couple of things. This has actually happened twice, with the story varying a little bit between the two events.
That sounds like a manipulative bitch. The problem is that men can get a tad gullable when it comes to women. I know I was with my ex.
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mindcutie
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Feb 28 2008, 04:47 PM
Post #180
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I guess some people can't take a hint. If someone turns you down, you might as well move on.
Maybe they are just lonely...
I guess some are, but that doesn't justify scaring 7 bells of sh*it out of the object of their affection. I knew a guy who had a 15 minute conversation with a total stranger on a train. 3 years later he was arrested for stalking her and given a suspended prison sentence. He used to follow her when she took her kids to school or just follow her in general. The poor woman was terrified. He didn't even stop when the police warned him off. I can understand that he might have been lonely and that he "liked" the woman, but she didn't feel the same way and he was making her life hell. When ever I have been turned down by someone I fancy, I just let it go. OK, it hurts a bit but I'd rather do that than end up making someone I like hate me.
The people you are refering to are sick I think. Being lonely and being mentally ill are two different things. I donīt think my former neighbour is mentally ill, heīs just lonely and a bit weird but you never know. People like that can make your life hell
I know many of these "admirers" are harmless, but you never know. The guy from my local that fancies the bar maid doesn't look threatening but he has a conviction for "exposing himself". OK, it was along time ago but it is still a tatd disturbing. Mostly some people make a nuisence of themselves and they end up being disliked by the person they fancy. If someone doesn't want your affection, you aren't always able to change their mind and sometimes it can have the opposite affect.
True. I donīt want to be stalked (?) or anything like that but I do like when someone doesnīt give up too easily. Does that make any sense
Well, I guess you shouldn't pull up at the first hurdle. Though trying too hard can look bad.
Right now I wouldnīt mind if someone tried too hard to be honest
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