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| Do you think it's ok?; School stuff | |
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| Tweet Topic Started: Mar 19 2012, 11:17 AM (310 Views) | |
| Jane D'Oh | Mar 19 2012, 11:17 AM Post #1 |
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Fulla-Carp
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I just sent Dans music teacher an email expressing my displeasure that he had not informed me in writing that the kids had extra band practice tonight. It's the first time it has ever happened, and I was sat in the parking lot wondering where he was, eventually I had to go into the office to ask. Apparently the kids had been told to tell us. (He's 10). I seem to think he may have mentioned it in passing and I said ok well when it comes home in writing I'll add it to the calendar. Everything else comes home with a consent form, so I was very pissed off by this. So now I have to go back and get him at 3:30 - what if I hadn't been able to do that? Is anyone else mad with me or am I too much PMS?! |
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| Dan | Mar 19 2012, 12:11 PM Post #2 |
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Even if it is PMS, I'd take the easy road and say "certainly you should be mad". ;-) Seriously though, knowing things like that in advance is really helpful for us when we have to pickup and drop off kids. I would be upset, but probably not do anything other than sending the note out you already have sent. |
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| Mikhailoh | Mar 19 2012, 12:14 PM Post #3 |
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If you want trouble, find yourself a redhead
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Don't sweat the small stuff. At what age should he be responsible for telling you things rather than the teacher? |
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Once in his life, every man is entitled to fall madly in love with a gorgeous redhead - Lucille Ball | |
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| Kincaid | Mar 19 2012, 12:46 PM Post #4 |
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HOLY CARP!!!
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You are right to be Clark Griswold angry. You have rightly come to rely on the written note. As for our schood district, I think they almost always rely on the kids to tell us these things, which they do suprisingly well. |
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| Copper | Mar 19 2012, 12:48 PM Post #5 |
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Shortstop
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It's John's fault. |
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The Confederate soldier was peculiar in that he was ever ready to fight, but never ready to submit to the routine duty and discipline of the camp or the march. The soldiers were determined to be soldiers after their own notions, and do their duty, for the love of it, as they thought best. Carlton McCarthy | |
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| Jane D'Oh | Mar 19 2012, 01:25 PM Post #6 |
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I guess my answer to that would be at the point when I give him a cell phone and permission to call me with a change of plan. Apparently at lunchtime he was sent to phone me to tell me about the practice, he left a message on the phone at home - and here's the thing - he didn't figure out that I was at work and that I leave work and head straight to pick him up and so I would not get the message. Until the point where he can reason this through and make sure he has actually reached me IMO he is not ready for the responsibility of determining his whereabouts. Even if he had reached me on the phone I would have sent him to get an adult to confirm the plan. It's the same pattern with playmates in his class still, a parent extends the invite - even if it's just standing by the car at the end of the driveway and waving at each other while the kid comes up and does the talking there is still a form of adult acknowledgement. That's just the way it is around here. As Kincaid said, I am mad because the music teacher broke the pattern. Also the school require a written consent form on file for students who stay behind for after school activities, then they make a big deal about the fact that they escort the kids from the building and check off who is going on the late bus with lists etc etc. they do not have that form on file for us because there was nothing kiddo wanted to stay for. And Copper - indubitably! That may be the best thing you have ever said! |
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| Mikhailoh | Mar 19 2012, 02:20 PM Post #7 |
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If you want trouble, find yourself a redhead
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I myself saw the wisdom in Copper's advice. The bastard. |
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| Kincaid | Mar 19 2012, 02:20 PM Post #8 |
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HOLY CARP!!!
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and by the way, my kids just turned 14 so they are an eentsy bit more reliable. |
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| blondie | Mar 19 2012, 02:41 PM Post #9 |
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Hmm. I don't know what to think. Was the extra band practice a last minute change in plan? I seem to remember all these little notes home dwindling down to just consent forms somewhere around Grade 5. My issue would be with my kid. And around the time he was in Grade 4, I switched over to not having my landline. So my kid had just 1 number to call when he needed to talk with me. He still only calls my cell. I never insisted on parent to parent contact for confirmation for all visitations at that age. It depended on the kids involved of course, their parents, what was proposed, all that. Of course I live in a place where citizens aren't armed, relatively few psychos, with a lower crime rate. I'd approach it as a teaching moment with my kid. |
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| Luke's Dad | Mar 19 2012, 02:58 PM Post #10 |
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I don't think it's worth getting yourself overly upset over. I would suggest just sending an email or a note to the guy asking for an email or note instead of just having the children alert you verbally. Just explain it as you did here. Like most parents, you plan your kids activities based around the written notices or emails you receive, and as a result, a verbal notification can get a little lost in the shuffle. It's annoying, but don't get too angry. |
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| Mikhailoh | Mar 19 2012, 03:05 PM Post #11 |
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If you want trouble, find yourself a redhead
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Do you have any idea what a problem it is for teachers to get emails for all parents in an extracurricular? or to get the right one for the time of day? I can attest it is a nightmare. |
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| John D'Oh | Mar 19 2012, 03:12 PM Post #12 |
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MAMIL
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They constantly send e-mails about concerts and stuff. All he had to do was send an e-mail to the PAC. As far as having an idea of what's involved - Mrs. D'Oh works in a school, so yes
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| Mikhailoh | Mar 19 2012, 03:14 PM Post #13 |
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If you want trouble, find yourself a redhead
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You pipe down. This is all your fault anyway. Bastard. |
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| RosemaryTwo | Mar 19 2012, 03:33 PM Post #14 |
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HOLY CARP!!!
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Our school sends 17.5 emails a day. That's worse in a lot of ways. I miss things. Hate that. |
| "Perhaps the thing to do is just to let stupid run its course." Aqua | |
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| Jane D'Oh | Mar 19 2012, 03:52 PM Post #15 |
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17.5? What's the half an email
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| jon-nyc | Mar 19 2012, 04:24 PM Post #16 |
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Cheers
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She could tell you bu |
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| apple | Mar 19 2012, 05:55 PM Post #17 |
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| RosemaryTwo | Mar 20 2012, 04:46 AM Post #18 |
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HOLY CARP!!!
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Jane it is hard to define but is something you know when you see it. I am fairly certain only public school districts have he capacity for the .5 email. It's not pretty. |
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| AndyD | Mar 20 2012, 05:06 AM Post #19 |
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I'd say until aged 16 (year 11in the UK) the school ought to inform parents of any change to the normal routine of a child. We entrust our children to the school's care and responsibility during set hours, usually clearly defined. Our kids' school does inform us (as did the primary school), sending emails to both parents. If they didn't inform us and get our assent (passively or actively) I'd have no qualms about taking my child at my convenience at the end regular school hours. No point getting overly-annoyed, write the letter, do what's right. |
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| JBryan | Mar 20 2012, 05:34 AM Post #20 |
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I can picture me calling my mom and telling her I had extra band practice. "Yeah, right, get your ass home." |
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"Any man who would make an X rated movie should be forced to take his daughter to see it". - John Wayne There is a line we cross when we go from "I will believe it when I see it" to "I will see it when I believe it". Henry II: I marvel at you after all these years. Still like a democratic drawbridge: going down for everybody. Eleanor: At my age there's not much traffic anymore. From The Lion in Winter. | |
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| Mikhailoh | Mar 20 2012, 05:44 AM Post #21 |
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If you want trouble, find yourself a redhead
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Context is important, yes.
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