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Soliciting gift suggestions; a beer exchange....
Topic Started: Dec 12 2011, 09:09 AM (235 Views)
RosemaryTwo
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I am having a Christmas lunch this week with a guy friend from high school.

He is in the beer industry.

He is giving me a case of this new beer that was premiered this week.

I feel I should have something for him in return, but he is a very no frills guy, so I am at a loss on what I should do. He is married and has two young boys.

Ideas?
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jon-nyc
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Bring him some christmas treats of some sort (maybe cookies?) for his kids.
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RosemaryTwo
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I had that thought. I could pull that off.
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jon-nyc
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Yeah, even something storebought like chocolate reindeer would be a nice gesture.
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KlavierBauer
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I'd either go something thoughtful/homemade (Xmas treats of some sort like Jon recommended), or a gift card.
No frills guys (like me) absolutely love getting gifts with a purpose.
I'd take a $25 Amazon or iTunes gift card over a hand-made sweater any day.
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Bring each of his boys a book, maybe about sports or something else they may be interested in.
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sue
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I like jon's idea. Food, something festive and fun. Something he could share, or just pass off to his boys. I think that would be comfortable.
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Mikhailoh
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Like for like. Bring him a set of 6 beer tasting glasses from Bed Bath and Beyond. He is probably going to get a zillion food items anyway.

http://www.bedbathandbeyond.com/product.asp?sku=18465779&utm_source=google&utm_medium=organic&utm_campaign=shopping

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RosemaryTwo
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I also have these nice soaps which I could offer as a gift to his wife.

Good idea or bad idea.

I have met the wife several times but am not independently friends with her. She would likely appreciate the soaps. Thoughts?
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KlavierBauer
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Soaps are a great idea.
I don't know what kind of woman she is - but likely you doing something thoughtful for her would help her see you as less of a "threat."
I mean that in the most natural, and unassuming way of course - I just know this is how a lot of people naturally feel when their partner has a friend of the opposite sex.
Even though you two aren't friends independently, knowing that you're thoughtful of her might improve international relations.
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RosemaryTwo
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Thanks KB.

Do others agree? Soaps for the wife a good idea?
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Mikhailoh
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Get the poor guy's wife something he can use.
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sue
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If you know for sure that she would like the soap, because of something she said etc. last time you met her, go for it. If you just think she'd like it because everybody likes fancy soap (they don't), don't. Gifts like that tend to come across like I had to give a present and didn't know what to get you and then I remembered I've got this stash of fancy soaps sitting in the cupboard that I have no use for. imo, of course. :hat:

I still say some fun goodies are the best bet.
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John D'Oh
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Mikhailoh
Dec 12 2011, 11:47 AM
Get the poor guy's wife something he can use.
Poor guy???? He's in the freaking beer industry FFS.

Unless he works for Annheiser-Busch, get his wife flowers.


If he works for Annheiser-Busch, buy him some decent beer.
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RosemaryTwo
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Thanks Mik and Sue.

I see your points.

Mik, he is around beer so much and is a true no-frills guy, I think the glasses would be a miss. My husband would like those, though.

Sue, I hear what you're saying. Appreciate your honesty.

I never dated this guy, but it was a poorly held secret that he had a crush on me in high school so I want to convey support and friendship to the wife. But maybe I am overly concerned there?
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sue
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RosemaryTwo
Dec 12 2011, 11:54 AM
But maybe I am overly concerned there?
yeah, probably, but I totally understand how you're feeling. Which is why I say keep it neutral, not personal, something he can share, so you won't make him uncomfortable. No Frills Guy may be one of those males that tend to be uncomfortable receiving gifts.

Hey! How about a really nice bottle of wine? You could make a joke about how you really couldn't give him beer, so thought he might like this. And that is certainly something he can take home and share with his wife if he chooses to. Or give to someone else at the office, etc.
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RosemaryTwo
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Thanks Sue.

My dad just gave me copious amounts of Maytag cheese. I have an extra porcelain pot full of spreadable cheddar cheese. Maybe this would be good. Pairs well with beer and is a casual food item. I serve this every year around ye holidays. Very good stuff.

My dad ordered me enough for 14 parties, probably assuming I would share it.
Edited by RosemaryTwo, Dec 12 2011, 01:28 PM.
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Mikhailoh
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Maytag blue? Yummy. But it depends how much I suppose.

OK, he's no frills. If you give him soap, even for his wife, he will look at you as if you had three heads. Steeler or Pirate fan? A hat or something. What do they do together? Do you have any idea?
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RosemaryTwo
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Well Maytag blue came in the huge package, yes.

But it came with two porcelain pots full of a cheddar spread. I may take one of those.

Really this is less of a gift and more of a gesture. I like the food idea, as I think on it and consider everyone's thoughts.

I don't want to slight anyone. Shouldn't require this much thought. ; )
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Dan
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Um, I'd leave the wife off the gift list. Seems strange to me. Kids yes. Him yes. Wife? Not so much.
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Dan
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'course food would work and could count as a gift for everyone.

Soap? Does she stink? Would she think you think she stinks? ;)

Seems like any gift to the wife could be misinterpreted. Get to know her better if you want, then give her a gift. Until then, leave well enough alone.

JMHO, of course.
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sue
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Sounds good, Rosemary.
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Mikhailoh
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Dan
Dec 12 2011, 02:20 PM
Soap? Does she stink? Would she think you think she stinks? ;)

Seems like any gift to the wife could be misinterpreted. Get to know her better if you want, then give her a gift. Until then, leave well enough alone.
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Dan is absolutely right. Do not get caught in that trap. There is no reasonable gift you can send that will make her like you. It will only make her wonder what you really meant by it.
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Mikhailoh
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Given what I just wrote another place, I must have gotten in touch with my inner misogynist today.
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RosemaryTwo
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Okay now I have other concerns.

Thanks for feedback.

Look for a new thread coming your way....
"Perhaps the thing to do is just to let stupid run its course." Aqua
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