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| Not sure how I feel about this...; parents weigh in | |
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| Tweet Topic Started: Dec 7 2011, 10:46 AM (767 Views) | |
| Horace | Dec 7 2011, 12:47 PM Post #51 |
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HOLY CARP!!!
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Jon, would you prefer the school asking parents whether the goldfish could come home with the kid, and having to explain to your kid why you said no when so many of their friends' parents said yes? Would you have said no? |
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| Mikhailoh | Dec 7 2011, 12:47 PM Post #52 |
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If you want trouble, find yourself a redhead
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Good plan. We did that too. They can still get into a bit of mischief but it is a lot easier to detect. When we did get wireless she was still not allowed to take her computer into her room. All had to be out here in the open. One good thing to do is always help them figure out what to use as passwords. |
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Once in his life, every man is entitled to fall madly in love with a gorgeous redhead - Lucille Ball | |
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| Renauda | Dec 7 2011, 12:50 PM Post #53 |
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HOLY CARP!!!
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Tell him the truth. Tell him directly that the fish died. When he asks what does that mean you tell him that when fish die they no longer swim in the water, eat or breathe and we no longer see them. From experience I can tell you he'll move on without any fuss or trauma. |
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| Mikhailoh | Dec 7 2011, 12:58 PM Post #54 |
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Yes, I don't think it will be terribly traumatic if you are straightforward and you set the tone. |
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Once in his life, every man is entitled to fall madly in love with a gorgeous redhead - Lucille Ball | |
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| apple | Dec 7 2011, 12:59 PM Post #55 |
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one of the angels
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sautee it for your or his dinner. He might like that. Make a pole with a tiny hook and see if he can catch it.
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| LWpianistin | Dec 7 2011, 01:29 PM Post #56 |
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HOLY CARP!!!
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My brother won a goldfish at a carnival. It lived to about 15. It had turned white by that point, with orange lipstick. |
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| Copper | Dec 7 2011, 01:56 PM Post #57 |
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Shortstop
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Pretty much all the time. |
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The Confederate soldier was peculiar in that he was ever ready to fight, but never ready to submit to the routine duty and discipline of the camp or the march. The soldiers were determined to be soldiers after their own notions, and do their duty, for the love of it, as they thought best. Carlton McCarthy | |
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| Mikhailoh | Dec 7 2011, 02:11 PM Post #58 |
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If you want trouble, find yourself a redhead
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I don't agree with that either. |
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Once in his life, every man is entitled to fall madly in love with a gorgeous redhead - Lucille Ball | |
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| John D'Oh | Dec 7 2011, 02:16 PM Post #59 |
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MAMIL
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I didn't think Kenny was out of line at all. It's only a f*cking fish. And let's face it, we all know Jon's going to be laughing at religious people with his son sooner or later. I've already got my whole 'you know how Santa is made up....' conversation planned way ahead of time. |
| What do you mean "we", have you got a mouse in your pocket? | |
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| OperaTenor | Dec 7 2011, 02:43 PM Post #60 |
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Pisa-Carp
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This is how we did it, and to this day Altoid has very rational reactions to pet deaths. |
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| Friday | Dec 7 2011, 03:01 PM Post #61 |
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Senior Carp
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Let your son keep the fish, but definitely talk to the school. Maybe they meant it to be a science experiment. BTW, if you don't want your child to have something, then don't let him have it. I would (and have) taken gifts from my kids that I didn't want them to keep. When I've expleained my reasons, they're usually okay with it. |
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| Dewey | Dec 7 2011, 03:10 PM Post #62 |
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HOLY CARP!!!
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If kid-nyc really doesn't care much about the fish, I'd take it in its little Ziplok bag and hand it back to the school, telling them what a stupid move they made. If kid-nyc is excited about the fish, keep it and take care of it, but still tell the school what a stupid move they made. If/when the fish dies, just tell kid-nyc that it died, explain death in the most basic, simple terms, and don't dwell on it. He probably won't. If he does, distract him with ice cream, or something else that will catch his attention for more than 15 minutes. After that, the worst will be over. |
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"By nature, i prefer brevity." - John Calvin, Institutes of the Christian Religion, p. 685. "Never waste your time trying to explain yourself to people who are committed to misunderstanding you." - Anonymous "Oh sure, every once in a while a turd floated by, but other than that it was just fine." - Joe A., 2011 I'll answer your other comments later, but my primary priority for the rest of the evening is to get drunk." - Klaus, 12/31/14 | |
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| Jane D'Oh | Dec 7 2011, 04:08 PM Post #63 |
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Fulla-Carp
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For me the whole 'what if the fish dies' thing is a completely moot point. The point is that the science class decided that you would take care of a fish without discussing it with you. Totally unacceptable. Also it doesn't matter if baby-nyc likes the fish or not, it's not his decision to make, he is a very small child. If you don't want to own a fish return it to the school and tell baby that it was very kind of them to lend it to you for a while wasn't it? Baby-nyc will not be the one in charge of caring for the fish. If you decide you want to have a fish for him great. If not return it. Either way I would be making a complaint. Actually I'd probably return the fish on principal, let them figure out what to do with it. If you want a fish, go and choose one yourself - why live with one someone else has picked out for you? |
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| brenda | Dec 7 2011, 05:40 PM Post #64 |
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Jane rocks. And maybe she's been hanging out with R3? Love the 'loaner fish' concept. |
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| The 89th Key | Dec 7 2011, 05:52 PM Post #65 |
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When the fish dies, give boy-NYC a bullet proof vest with a dead fish inside. Then tell him the fish sleeps with the fishes.![]() But remember...
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| Mikhailoh | Dec 7 2011, 06:14 PM Post #66 |
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If you want trouble, find yourself a redhead
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Da winnah! |
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Once in his life, every man is entitled to fall madly in love with a gorgeous redhead - Lucille Ball | |
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| Jane D'Oh | Dec 7 2011, 08:23 PM Post #67 |
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Fulla-Carp
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Cool, what did I win? *Wants prizes...* |
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| George K | Dec 7 2011, 08:25 PM Post #68 |
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Finally
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A goldfish. |
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| Jane D'Oh | Dec 7 2011, 08:27 PM Post #69 |
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Fulla-Carp
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Ok, stick it in the mail, it'll be ready for the cat to eat by the time it gets here. |
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| Mikhailoh | Dec 7 2011, 08:34 PM Post #70 |
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If you want trouble, find yourself a redhead
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That's first prize. Second prize is two goldfish. |
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| Rainman | Dec 7 2011, 09:14 PM Post #71 |
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Fulla-Carp
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High school freshman biology, my daughter's teacher decided to get duck eggs, the class observed over the weeks as they all hatched in the incubator. Fine. Ducks started to get bigger. Teacher (she was new, and er. . . enthusiastic I guess), told students that anyone that wanted to take a duck home and raise it, could. My daughter brought the duck home, named him Rufus. I had to build a pen for Rufus. He grew, BIG. We took him to an extension center at a local community college, hoping to release him to the pond where there were other ducks. We were told that if we did that, the other ducks would kill him (news to me!). We tried anyway, Rufus freaked out, we brought him home. One day, Rufus was gone. I told my daughter he undoubtedly flew away (there were a lot of feathers all over the place...) Neighbor told me he found the remains of the duck in his yard, totally mauled, maybe by a racoon. Anyway, complaining at the building level is only so effective, would be ignored until next time there are extra fish (or ducks), or a teacher that has yet to think things through. I would suggest an email by several parents to the board chair requesting a review of district policy on the issue. Poor Rufus. What a way to go. . . |
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| sue | Dec 7 2011, 09:40 PM Post #72 |
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HOLY CARP!!!
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I don't get the complaint here at all. Not at all. |
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| kenny | Dec 7 2011, 10:14 PM Post #73 |
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HOLY CARP!!!
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Considering the sources I consider it a great compliment. |
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| Axtremus | Dec 8 2011, 08:04 PM Post #74 |
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HOLY CARP!!!
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My suggestion was meant to preempt the fish's dying ... letting it go in a pond and watch it swim away. |
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