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| Russia Halts Adoptions to US | |
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| Tweet Topic Started: Apr 15 2010, 04:08 PM (296 Views) | |
| jon-nyc | Apr 15 2010, 04:08 PM Post #1 |
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Cheers
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Apparently some woman in Tennessee sent her 7 year old adopted Russian kid to Moscow with a one-way ticket and a note saying she didn't want him anymore. Can you imagine? She was a nurse, too. Here's that story: http://www.nytimes.com/2010/04/10/world/europe/10russia.html And here's the story of the suspension of adoptions: http://www.nytimes.com/2010/04/16/world/europe/16adopt.html?hp |
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| sue | Apr 15 2010, 04:17 PM Post #2 |
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HOLY CARP!!!
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I heard that story last night, just made sick. Obviously the kid is troubled and needs some help, but it seems to me if you agree to an adoption you should do so with your eyes open and suck it up, better or worse. Certainly it is possible that a kid who's ended up needing to be adopted hasn't had the perfect picket fence early childhood and might have some issues. Surely this woman realised that? But to send him back, alone, like a loaf of bread that's gone bad, really stinks. I don't blame the Russians at all for halting adoptions to the US. Clearly there are some communication problems. |
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| jon-nyc | Apr 15 2010, 04:19 PM Post #3 |
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Cheers
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Why the US? Why not from Tennessee? Or from nurses? Or from white single women? Or from North Americans? |
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| BeeLady | Apr 15 2010, 04:51 PM Post #4 |
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Middle Aged Carp
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I know several people who have adopted children from Russia. Two successful children were brought here in a group of 6 siblings..the sibs all adopted by area parents...Their birth parents had been murdered by an older brother drug addict/dealer. .... Our neighbor is an adorable 1st grader whose parents traveled for hours outside of Moscow to an orphange to visit her several times before they took her home....We had a party before she came where they played videos of their visits....Babies were kept in cribs for hours at a time, never held...the rooms were white...no pictures, no toys no stimulation at all (they brought developmental toys on one visit for all the children, but on the next visit there was no sign of them)...In fact the children who were old enough to eat solids were given them pureed and in a bottle while strapped to a high chair... Our neighbors daughter came at 10 months unable to sit up. When you held her, her legs just dangled.....she had no muscle tone....she has spent months in a blank crib with no reason to move... Our friends were offered visits in a special room with nice furniture, pictures on the walls, oriental rugs....but it turned out this room was used only for prospective parents...And when they spent much time interacting with their daughter, they were scolded by the Dr's for "spoiling" the child. This sweet little girl still has lasting affects... some speech delays and is very small physically along with a tremor. She is supported by our special education system. She is one of the lucky ones. She was adopted at a very young age and has made great strides. (And we in the neighborhood adore her!) I listened to a radio program today where a parent called in and said "Russia lies" about the records of these kids...Many are fetal alcohol syndrome victims etc. Kids who have been abused etc. I didn't find the reports of the boy's behavior too surprising really...that he set fires, was violent etc... What is sad about this whole thing is that we here have so little set up for children who need mental health care...Maybe with better systems of support in place this family wouldn' t have done this drastic, deplorable thing. |
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| Renauda | Apr 15 2010, 05:13 PM Post #5 |
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HOLY CARP!!!
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As someone who has some experience with successfully adopting from the that part of the world, all I can say is that the adoptive mother is spewing a load of bollocks about being misled. A foreigner adopting a child that age from either Russia or Ukraine in particular knows full well that the risks and the probability that any prospective child over the age of two will have serious clinical issues. This probabilty increases steeply as the children reach adolescence. Adoptive parents embarking on this path must know and accept that during the pre-adoption phase, they must be prepared to go home childless if they have the slighest doubt about the propective child. Sounds harsh but that's the reality. Sorry folks, but she either didn't do her pre-adoption homework or should never have qualified for the international adoption process from the start. |
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| jon-nyc | Apr 15 2010, 05:15 PM Post #6 |
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Cheers
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I agree with that myself, having only sat through a presentation about adopting from Russia/Ukraine. What I don't get is the rather arbitrary determination that no other US citizen should adopt because this lady is a fruit cake. |
| In my defense, I was left unsupervised. | |
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| Renauda | Apr 15 2010, 05:18 PM Post #7 |
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HOLY CARP!!!
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Hague Convention- the US is the signatory not individual states. Same with here- one idiot in Manitoba last year managed to close the door for all Canadians to adopt from Kazakhstan. I understand though that adoptions will resume again this fall. |
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| jon-nyc | Apr 15 2010, 05:18 PM Post #8 |
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Cheers
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I suppose that makes sense. |
| In my defense, I was left unsupervised. | |
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| Renauda | Apr 15 2010, 05:56 PM Post #9 |
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HOLY CARP!!!
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Of course it makes sense being that those adopted children remain full citizens of their birth country until they are at least 16 years of age regardless of their residency abroad. |
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| Mikhailoh | Apr 15 2010, 06:18 PM Post #10 |
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If you want trouble, find yourself a redhead
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Makes perfect sense to me. On top of the adoptive mother's behavior, there is the question of the fact that the airline clearly did not check who would be there to greet the child on his or her arrival - halfway around the globe. That is a problem that can only be resolved to Russian satisfaction at the federal level. |
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