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Pray for little Jasmyne
Topic Started: Jan 10 2010, 11:31 AM (824 Views)
Eileen
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What Dewey said..........Please hear our prayers, offered with much love in the name of our children.

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Mikhailoh
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Send her to us. But only if I get to shoot the @#$% boyfriend.
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This thread has troubled me and I've been mulling it over before weighing in. Yes, pray for little Jasymyne. At the same time, pray for the thousands and thousands of children that are suffering similar plights. I don't know about Georgia, or wherever it is that Larry lives, but I am very familiar with the process in my state, where I worked for quite a few years out of law school as both a child and a parent advocate in child protective cases. So, what is your role, Larry? Are you a CASA advocate?

For those of you who haven't had an inside look into the child protective systems of your state, let me tell you, if you think this is an isolated case, I'll grant you, it is extreme, but it's not unusual. Did you ever read about the five-year old girl in my community who was put in an oven to roast to death by her emotionally depraved mother's twisted boyfriend? That was a case my new boss had defended just prior to my joinging the firm. He would come to my office to vent unload the details of it, months after having lived through the trial, because his wife put a gag order on him and would let him talk about it at home. I drew my line in the sand when I refused to let him show me the photo exhibits used at trial. There are so many more cases that are less extreme but where the abuse is every bit as devastating as it continues on a daily basis through the course of the victim's childhood. When a case like this come to light, our Department of Human Services steps in and takes custody of the child. The child is then put into foster care. If the child is lucky, she ends up in a nurturing foster care setting while the Department goes through the arduous process of "reunification, i.e. providing therapies and services to both parent and child to try to create a safe environment for return of the child (which seldom works out well). If the child is really unfortunate, she may end up in yet another abusive situation. Yes, I've seen those - when the foster parents end up as bad or worse then the sitaution the child was taken from. There was one case in which I was the children's advocate when one of the girls in foster care revealed almost a year after the fact that her foster father had been sexually abusing her. In that bizarre case, an over zealous case worker removed this girl and her two sisters from a situation from which they should never have been removed. There was another high profile case in Maine in which a foster mother had duct-taped a little girl into a chair in the basement with duct tape around mouth to punish her and she suffocated to death. If little Jasmyne survives, she is going to have a very rough row to hoe overcoming the profound formative effect of the abuse she has suffered. She may never get over it to the point of becoming a normally functioning human being. She may be so damaged that she grows up to be another abuser.

Yes, pray for little Jasmyne, but please don't forget the thousands and thousands of others who continue to be abused by those they are entrusted to.
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Larry
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I'm going to be as calm and polite as I am able to muster toward you. This thread was started to ask my friends here to pray for a little girl in my town. It is not necessary to stop praying for or caring about all the other children in this world who suffer abuse or neglect in order for people to do that, and I didn't ask people to pray for this little girl in an attempt to divert anyone's attention away from all the other children. It is also not necessary for you to divert attention away from my intention with this thread by turning it into a generic thread about all the children who suffer in this world.

We know this. If you want to start a thread about all the other children, please feel free to do so. If I started a thread about every little kid I deal with I would have to start 3 or 4 a week. This thread is about Jasmyne. If you have a comment about Jasmyne, this is where you make it. Make your public service announcements in your own thread.

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LWpianistin
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WTF Kathy? I don't think anyone here denies that abuse is a big deal and Jasmyne isn't the only sufferer. What the hell is wrong with you? Can't you just say "Yes, pray for Jasmyne" or something similar? We don't need a Debbie Downer post on an already horribly sad thread topic.
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Larry
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This is a picture of little Jasmyne. The article title mentions "Dad says" - her parents are divorced, the man who beat her is her mother's boyfriend.

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brenda
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Any update on her condition, Larry?

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Larry
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She's going to make it, Brenda.

Look at that precious face. Who could hit such a beautiful child...

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Larry
Jan 12 2010, 09:06 PM
She's going to make it, Brenda.

Look at that precious face. Who could hit such a beautiful child...

She's sure a cutie. She's just a wee babe yet, too.

Were the mom and boyfriend doing drugs or what?!
“Weeds are flowers, too, once you get to know them.”
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NAK
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Prayers continuing for Jasmyne, Larry.

The contrast between the sweet smiling face in the first pic and the broken little girl in the second...God, some people are f***ed. :sad:
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Horace
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LWpianistin
Jan 11 2010, 07:45 PM
WTF Kathy?
Childhood abuse manifests itself in many ways. The more success people have with overcoming their own difficulties, the more subtle and benign those manifestations are. For an abuse survivor to build strong long term family relationships and friendships, and to relegate the mental illness to trolling message boards, is a triumph of sorts.
As a good person, I implore you to do as I, a good person, do. Be good. Do NOT be bad. If you see bad, end bad. End it in yourself, and end it in others. By any means necessary, the good must conquer the bad. Good people know this. Do you know this? Are you good?
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NAK
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Edited. You're right, Mik. Sorry
Edited by NAK, Jan 13 2010, 05:18 AM.
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Mikhailoh
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Larry and Kathy have not let this terribly sad but heartfelt thread degenerate into a personal squabble. Maybe we should follow that lead.

Let's just focus on Jasmyne.
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JBryan
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That picture just brought tears to my eyes. Anyone who could do that should be put down like a dog. I pray for Jasmyne's full recovery and a long life free of emotional scars. An awful lot to ask, I know.
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Mikhailoh
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Yep. As a guy I know said 'some people just need killin'.
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Free Rider
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Words fail me. :sad:

I hope that Jasmyne makes a full recovery.
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Klaus
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Being a father myself for some time now, I think I get a new level of sensitivity for these things. I, too, hope that she will recover and the sick "boyfriend" be dealt with appropriately.
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John D'Oh
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Jan 13 2010, 07:07 AM
Being a father myself for some time now, I think I get a new level of sensitivity for these things.
That's been true for me, too. I have trouble coping with just reading about this stuff.
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