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Am I being over jealous?
Topic Started: May 25 2008, 10:29 AM (899 Views)
1hp
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Make sure it doesn't involve paying her bills either.

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Bernard
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Crash,

I do not know the history of your relationship with this woman because I haven't followed them, but obviously there is a well known history. Just as obvious is the fact that your relationship is suffering stress, and this is causing you stress.

Breaking up is hard to do--there is truth in that. Can you mutually decide not to see each other for a while? Mutually agree that it will be difficult. Mutually agree that there is some pain involved. Mutually agree that you may run into each other at some point. And let it be? It's not easy and it hurts. (That's what all those love songs are about.)

Have you considered couples therapy? Don't knock it till you've tried it.

FWIW, I'm glad you're trying a therapist for yourself. I spent several years going to one (6 with a bioenergetic therapist and 14 with my shrink) and I quite recommend it. If you find the right one for you it can be a blessing, but like everything else you may need to shop around a little. There are all kinds of therapists out there (frankly, I don't trust all of them--I have a few stories) and they may not all be best for you. It is important to find one you trust. You will know it when you do. Personally I do not like the bookish, analytical type that writes everything down. I am much more comfortable with the 'intuitive' type.

Good luck, and may you find relief from this difficult struggle soon.
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CrashTest
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Thank you - I need to get out. This is killing me. I don't trust her, she lies to me, and even if she is not doing what I think she is, I can't sleep at night because things add up too much.

Some people are just impossible.
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CrashTest
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Actually it will hurt less if I leave her then it does now. It is a horrible feeling, I am constantly in doubt as to whether she is cheating on me or lying. I can't take it anymore, I need to leave her for good this time.

Her lies are dangerous...she turns them on me and makes me seem like the guilty one, and she the innocent one.
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CTPianotech
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So how did your recital go??
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CrashTest
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Can you guys please give me encouragement? I am suffering with her and I need to find the courage to leave it, I still like her very much so it's difficult. Please, I need your encouragement and help, that i better than ridicule. I need help, I really do. My entire family is also helping me get out - and I'd like your help as well.

The situation is dire. Here is what I do for her:

I pay this for her:

rent $800 a month
phone $100 a month
babysitter $125 a week
taxis a week when I'm not there $150
Groceries a week $150
electricity a month $100
We always go out to the mall - and sometimes it's a few hundred dollars

I treat her with respect, and don't do anything wrong.

And this is what she does for me:

She lies to me - tells me she is at home and then takes my mom and goes out at night to god knows where
Talks with guys - one in particular a great deal, I suspect something
Is always complaining about something
Heck I have sex with her at most once a week, even if I go 3-4 days. There always seem to be an excuse.
She seems to like me a little bit, but I don't even think it is that much.

Jesus Christ. typing this out helps me see how much of an idiot I am. I need to get out, and I am very close to it.
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justme
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CrashTest
May 26 2008, 10:19 AM
I need to get out, and I am very close to it.

What's wrong with this sentence?

and, Crash, I can tell you plenty of people who can use that money just as much as she does. And they are probably much more deserving.

She's a whore, Crash. Hopefully she gives good h---, because she's expensive enough.

added edit: sorry to be so harsh. But sometimes one has to be.
"Men sway more towards hussies." G-D3
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apple
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don't need to pay Crash..

you want a giving relationship with a woman.. you give, she gives.

get out asap
it behooves me to behold
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sue
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CrashTest
May 26 2008, 07:19 AM
Can you guys please give me encouragement?

Ok.

Get out. Now. No waffling, no time extensions. Acknowledge you'll feel bad for a bit, but don't get sucked in again because of it.
Make a clean break.
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justme
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Crash,

Really, get out asap.

If you really feel the need to help someone in need, or people in need goto:


The Peace Corps

or

Big Brothers, Big Sisters
"Men sway more towards hussies." G-D3
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Dewey
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or, of course... www.montanadeluz.org

Crash, if you want out, just stop writing the checks. She'll take take of the rest.
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sarah_blueparrot
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She spends $150 on taxis a week?! What's wrong with the bus, or legs?
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Renauda
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Dewey
May 26 2008, 08:15 AM

Crash, if you want out, just stop writing the checks. She'll take take of the rest.

:yes:
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Larry
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Mmmmmmm, pie!
I don't believe any of this. Crash doesn't work, so any money he has daddy gives him. And daddy isn't going to pay for this kind of crap.

So - our chains are being yanked again.
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CrashTest
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Larry, I do work.
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Mikhailoh
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If you want trouble, find yourself a redhead
If you are going to spend $2K a month on a whore, at least find one that will give you what you're paying for.
Once in his life, every man is entitled to fall madly in love with a gorgeous redhead - Lucille Ball
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John D'Oh
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CrashTest
May 26 2008, 10:19 AM
Can you guys please give me encouragement? I am suffering with her and I need to find the courage to leave it, I still like her very much so it's difficult. Please, I need your encouragement and help, that i better than ridicule. I need help, I really do. My entire family is also helping me get out - and I'd like your help as well.

The situation is dire. Here is what I do for her:

I pay this for her:

rent $800 a month
phone $100 a month
babysitter $125 a week
taxis a week when I'm not there $150
Groceries a week $150
electricity a month $100
We always go out to the mall - and sometimes it's a few hundred dollars

I treat her with respect, and don't do anything wrong.

And this is what she does for me:

She lies to me - tells me she is at home and then takes my mom and goes out at night to god knows where
Talks with guys - one in particular a great deal, I suspect something
Is always complaining about something
Heck I have sex with her at most once a week, even if I go 3-4 days. There always seem to be an excuse.
She seems to like me a little bit, but I don't even think it is that much.

Jesus Christ. typing this out helps me see how much of an idiot I am. I need to get out, and I am very close to it.

Crash, for that money I'd have sex with you once a week.

What you're doing isn't treating her with respect, incidentally.
What do you mean "we", have you got a mouse in your pocket?
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Daniel
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Radu
May 25 2008, 12:25 PM
CrashTest
May 25 2008, 11:03 PM
Please, help. I don't know what to do.

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ROTFL!
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CrashTest
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OperaTenor
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CrashTest
May 26 2008, 08:49 AM
Larry, I do work.

I agree. Stringing an entire forum membership along can be a *lot* of work, or so I'd imagine.



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And now, Your Moment Of Zen:

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Anatomy Prof: "The human body has about 20 sq. meters of skin."
Me: "Man, that's a lot of lampshades!"
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kenny
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What a freaky picture Frank.

I have to ask.
What is it?
Where did you find it?
What were you searching for when it came up.
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Phlebas
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Funny picture. I liked the ones TomK used to post in Crash threads too.

Crash, you need to learn the value of money.
Random FML: Today, I was fired by my boss in front of my coworkers. It would have been nice if I could have left the building before they started celebrating. FML

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kenny
May 27 2008, 08:51 AM
What a freaky picture Frank.

I have to ask.
What is it?
Where did you find it?
What were you searching for when it came up.

Heh... I don't remember, but the pic cracks me up.
Anatomy Prof: "The human body has about 20 sq. meters of skin."
Me: "Man, that's a lot of lampshades!"
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