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The woman situation..should I help?
Topic Started: Dec 3 2007, 08:56 PM (643 Views)
CrashTest
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Ok, right now as you all know we are separated. I do not think I will go back, so here is my question.

I sincerely do like her - and I worry about her and her kid. Even if I have nothing anymore romantically to do with her, can I still help her out?

Even if she doesn't even have to see me or talk to me, can I still pay her phone bill, or perhaps send her some money when she needs it every once in a while?

This would be just to help her - I'd want nothing back, not even talk or see her if she doesn't want to.

Her life is much harder than mine, and even if she does not like me, I do not want to see her suffer.
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CrashTest
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Why? I'd feel bad - she doesn't even ever have to talk with me, she can find someone else, I'll find someone else - but I just don't want to see the world step on her due to lack of resources.

Mostly because of her kid..he's innocent in this world, no reason that he has to suffer because his mother doesn't have her head on straight.
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Dec 3 2007, 09:05 PM
his mother doesn't have her head on straight.

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CrashTest
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Wait, what's wrong with me helping her like this? I'm not seeing it.
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What? I don't get it.
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she'll find someone else i'm sure. her needs are far beyond that of a normal struggling mother in my opinion.

at this moment in time when you are vulnerable, (missing her) it would be best for you if you maintained your distance.

perhaps in the future.
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Wasn't this post supposed to be in a joke thread somewhere?
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Dec 4 2007, 06:05 AM
she can find someone else, I'll find someone else

If I were your next girlfriend, I would resent the fact that you were supporting another woman. Even if you were to say it doesn't mean anything, I would not feel happy with it in the slightest. Probably I would have these worries with good cause, because at the end of the day, it really could and would mean something.
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Sarah, you're wasting your time. Crash solicits advice, but hasn't the least intention of taking it. Ever. :banghead:
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Yeah, I'm slowly beginning to realise this... Oh well. Nice to be helpful.

Maybe I should have left it at 'If I were your next girlfriend...'
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So, you would be thinking all these charitable thoughts if this woman were 300 lbs, had a skin condition and smelled badly? Or...is it because she's hot and you still want her - even if you don't have sex with her - you want to feel that you've got something with this woman?

Either way, until you leave emotionally...you're not available for someone else.

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There are lots of single women with children out there. None of those kids have done anything wrong to deserve their lot in life. Crash should give money to all of them.
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Dec 4 2007, 01:54 PM
There are lots of single women with children out there. None of those kids have done anything wrong to deserve their lot in life. Crash should give money to all of them.

Failing that, send the money to me. I could make a beautiful mother of two children pretty happy with it, and then she'd make me happy (knudge, knudge say no more, say no more), so you'd get double the benefit, and you'd never even have to leave your room and miss any of those HD sports programs you Americans love so much.
What do you mean "we", have you got a mouse in your pocket?
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Dec 4 2007, 11:12 AM
. . .  send the money to me.
I could make a beautiful mother of two children pretty happy with it, and then she'd make me happy . . .

John what if your wife finds out? :tsktsk:
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Yes, that is nice. Send her lots of money. I am sure she will appreciate it.

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