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Welcome to the real world
Topic Started: Aug 10 2007, 01:01 PM (684 Views)
Jane D'Oh
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Probably about 4 weeks after arriving in Canada when I realised I couldn't run off to my mum and dads house when I was having a snit. It was a good way to learn to communicate properly with John. :lol:
Pfft.
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LWpianistin
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Aug 11 2007, 01:55 AM
LWpianistin
Aug 11 2007, 01:18 AM
Well, you can get all snotty, Ax, but Crash did pretty much ask when we first experienced the hard-life world, if you read the first post carefully.

And, yes, for many the real world is the hard life. Everyone's "real world" is different.

There will always be people who has (or have had) a "harder life" than you.
Would that make your world "unreal"?
Would that make your world "less real"?

I guess we disagree on whether "hard life" equates to "real world."

I understand what you're saying, and agree with you, but for me growing up does mean being out on your own. Luckily, my parents do still support me somewhat, but I take out most of the loans for school, and I pay most of my bills. I try not to run to them for money (and have even refused it when asked (what's wrong with me!!)) Of course there are people with a harder life than me. I have it pretty damn good.
And how are you today?
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kenny
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Great thread.
Your perception is relative to what YOU are used to, regardless of % of society that shares your experience.

I'm glad I have lived in a very wide range of income brackets and today am in the middle of the range that I have experienced.
It is a nice place to be.
It gives a person a wider range of familiarity and more understanding of others who are different.
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ivorythumper
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I've been independent since 19 y.o., made my way through college working and scholarships. My parents were always morally supportive of what I wanted to do, but not financially supportive.

My dad left home at 13, grew up on the streets of New York, worked the docks, lied his way into the Navy at 16, got out at 21, married mom and made a very good life for his family eventually owning his own business. My hero who was always fully connected with "the real world".
The dogma lives loudly within me.
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kenny
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My dad also experienced a wide range of income levels.
He grew up in an orphanage.
He worked several jobs to put himself through University of Illinois, and had a very high paying career up till I was 10.
He bought a fancy house in a ritzy lake-front suburb just north of Chicago.
New cars every year, country club memberships, etc.

Then something happened inside him and he became an unemployed alcoholic/criminal/slime-ball while mom kept some kind of roof over our heads working as a secretary.

While difficult I think overall it is good to have a range of experiences.
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RosemaryTwo
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It is just that reality REALLY hits you at age 18 when you have to pay rent, tuition, car, food and all expenses on what you can earn.


Knowing that you can survive and maintain your lifestyle based on your skills and talent alone is an indispensible part of being an adult.

My dad told me this when I was young, and it rings true the older I get.

He did not grow up in an orphanage, but his father did. ^_^
"Perhaps the thing to do is just to let stupid run its course." Aqua
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kenny
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Aug 11 2007, 09:19 AM


Knowing that you can survive and maintain your lifestyle based on your skills and talent alone is an indispensible part of being an adult.


Which is why I feel sort of sorry for people who don't do it on their own, who get a boost in life from their parent's money.

I think people who do it on their own get more brownie points.
[Clearly again this is the "my group is best" thing at work in Kenny.]

I love to hear when rich folks give nothing to their kids but love and emotional support and leave their fortune to charity.

I really respect that.

I have a close friend with rich parents.
Her older brother accepted the money to attend and expensive law school in Boston.
She said, "No thanks" and worked her way to her Masters at public Universities.
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RosemaryTwo
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I've also met some really (really, really) wealthy people who quietly donate to charities and universities, and otherwise don't display any of their wealth.

I can't find it, but Kenny did you read the article in the NYT about "yawns"? Instead of being a yuppie, they're people who are "young and wealthy but normal." They're people who earned many millions of dollars on their own, but choose not to spend it in conspicuous ways. Apparently there are a lot of them out there. They drive a normal car, wear minimal jewelry, and donate heavily to charities. They travel, but otherwise live a modest lifestyle. I love that.

"Perhaps the thing to do is just to let stupid run its course." Aqua
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Mikhailoh
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Yeah, well I was one of those who had to do it on my own too, but what it really did was limit my options rather than build my character.

Kids' character is already established long before they go to college. Having financial support, for most, merely means you give your children a wider horizon to choose from.

All the truly rich people I know do far more for others than they do for themselves.
Once in his life, every man is entitled to fall madly in love with a gorgeous redhead - Lucille Ball
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Aqua Letifer
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I'm going to have to respectfully disagree, mik. The vast majority of the time, there's a definite difference in character, for lack of a better word, between kids who had a lot of financial support and kids who didn't. I'm not trying to imply it's good/bad kind of difference, but nonetheless the contrast is very clear most of the time.
I cite irreconcilable differences.
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