Welcome Guest [Log In] [Register]
Welcome to The New Coffee Room. We hope you enjoy your visit.


You're currently viewing our forum as a guest. This means you are limited to certain areas of the board and there are some features you can't use. If you join our community, you'll be able to access member-only sections, and use many member-only features such as customizing your profile, sending personal messages, and voting in polls. Registration is simple, fast, and completely free.


Join our community!


If you're already a member please log in to your account to access all of our features:

Username:   Password:
Add Reply
  • Pages:
  • 1
  • 3
Question for Women: Influence on attraction
Topic Started: May 20 2007, 11:44 AM (804 Views)
Frank_W
Member Avatar
Resident Misanthrope
Larry
May 20 2007, 01:28 PM
Spike, I don't claim to be an expert on women, I just know what I've found works for me.

In my experience, women don't like men who make them feel pressure. It doesn't matter what their age is. They don't want a guy who is so straight laced they feel like they're out with their brother, but they don't want one who comes across as focused on getting in their pants either. It's like how people don't like dealing with a salesman who has dollar signs in his eyes where you can tell all he cares about is getting his hands on your money - women can see the "I want in your pants" signs in a man's eyes, and if that's what they see, you ain't gettin' any...

They like a sense of humor, but one that's appropriate. A self deprecating sense of humor that is natural and not "fake", that isn't laced with sexual innuendo or insincere "lines", and that let's them actually enjoy the humor and fun along with you instead of feeling they are having to play a game or be careful of what they say, or what you're motives are, etc.

They like a guy who, when the evening is over, has conducted himself in such a way that after he's gone they remember the evening as fun and pleasant instead of forced and guarded, with periods of near hostility due to the guy acting like a jerk.

In other words, they want to have fun, enjoy the company, relax, and trust that you respect her. They can tell in a heartbeat if you're insincere, playing a game, focused on "getting somewhere", etc.  Personally, I think it is the most crude thing in the world for a man to ask for that. If he has been the kind of man he should be, treated her the way she should be treated, if that's something she wants then she'll ask *you*.

The first key to understanding women though, Spike, is you have to love them.  I mean truly love them - all of them. You have to just love women in general. If you do, you won't have to "figure them out", they'll be able to see it, and if they're interested in you, they'll tell you all you need to know in order to "figure them out". Each one is unique, each one a walking piece of proof that God exists.

I absolutely, totally, and without hesitation, love women. I love being around them, listening to them, talking to them, laughing with them, I love their presence. I don't care about where it might lead, I don't care about "what's in it for me", I don't have any agenda - I just love their company. From there, all I can say is.... I don't have any problems....... ;) :D

Right on, Larry! I could have written exactly what you've written here. BINGO!!

:thumb:

One more thing: SMILE!! Let the smile be real, and let it reach your eyes. Don't glower or stare or glare. (Men have a bad habit of this) Also, know that if you're out with her, she's very aware of every inch of skin she has showing, and she's also aware of exactly where your eyes are. (And especially if they dart to one side to glance at the girl with the cute butt that just walked past!)

Don't do it. Be real, be nice, tease, laugh easily, make HER laugh easily, be interested in what SHE has to say, and find ways to keep her engaged in a conversation about HER, and... You're in like Flynn. :)
Anatomy Prof: "The human body has about 20 sq. meters of skin."
Me: "Man, that's a lot of lampshades!"
Offline Profile Quote Post Goto Top
 
Spike Lee from DC
Junior Carp
sue
May 20 2007, 02:55 PM
Spike Lee from DC
May 20 2007, 02:21 PM
Also, my tolerence for 'bullsh*t' has diminished greatly.

Not so sure what an older woman's perspective is on that, though.

That's what I was getting at. Confidence, knows how to function in the real world, no b.s.
Stuff that may have seemed like fun, quirky traits in younger guys, is just tiresome now.

Of course, I'm not entirely sure what you mean by 'older' women, and if I fit that category. :P

Older women= not interested in raising a family.

They've been there, done that and/ or are just not interested in that.

They seem to have an entirely different agenda from what they had before.
"Do the Right Thing"
Offline Profile Quote Post Goto Top
 
Spike Lee from DC
Junior Carp
Larry, you old devil...

you do have a way with words... :sombrero:
"Do the Right Thing"
Offline Profile Quote Post Goto Top
 
Frank_W
Member Avatar
Resident Misanthrope
No way: Older women ROCK!! They don't play games. They know what they want. They aren't demanding a family. They aren't even looking for a permanent relationship, most of the time. They're usually set in their own lives and have their own $hit together, and don't want to be burdened with a man. They want companionship, laughter, a good hard tumble in the sheets, and then, "Get out. I've got $hit to do." Most of them aren't as neurotic as younger women. They've made peace with their bodies, with their own gender, and with men, as well. They aren't afraid to be intimate and affectionate and even vulnerable, but at the same time, they are strong enough to boot your azz out and go their own way. Plus, older women know what they're doing, in bed.

I reiterate: Older women ROCK!! :thumb:
Anatomy Prof: "The human body has about 20 sq. meters of skin."
Me: "Man, that's a lot of lampshades!"
Offline Profile Quote Post Goto Top
 
John D'Oh
Member Avatar
MAMIL
Frank_W
May 20 2007, 08:05 PM

I reiterate: Older women ROCK!! :thumb:

If nothing else, the ability to take one's teeth out can have certain benefits....

Posted Image
What do you mean "we", have you got a mouse in your pocket?
Offline Profile Quote Post Goto Top
 
Frank_W
Member Avatar
Resident Misanthrope
:lol: Okay.. Um... That's a little outside of my personal "eligibility bracket," so she's all yours, John. :D
Anatomy Prof: "The human body has about 20 sq. meters of skin."
Me: "Man, that's a lot of lampshades!"
Offline Profile Quote Post Goto Top
 
Spike Lee from DC
Junior Carp
"Most of them aren't as neurotic as younger women..."

Maybe.

But my last girl friend inexplicably called the cops on me for knocking too loudly when I went over to check on her.

Go figure.
"Do the Right Thing"
Offline Profile Quote Post Goto Top
 
Spike Lee from DC
Junior Carp
"One more thing: SMILE!! Let the smile be real, and let it reach your eyes. Don't glower or stare or glare. (Men have a bad habit of this) Also, know that if you're out with her, she's very aware of every inch of skin she has showing, and she's also aware of exactly where your eyes are. (And especially if they dart to one side to glance at the girl with the cute butt that just walked past!)

Don't do it. Be real, be nice, tease, laugh easily, make HER laugh easily, be interested in what SHE has to say, and find ways to keep her engaged in a conversation about HER..."

Well put yourself, Frank...
"Do the Right Thing"
Offline Profile Quote Post Goto Top
 
RosemaryTwo
Member Avatar
HOLY CARP!!!
Quote:
 
QUOTE (dolmansaxlil @ May 20 2007, 04:13 PM)
See? My instincts are bang on. 



:lol: :lol: :lol:




"Perhaps the thing to do is just to let stupid run its course." Aqua
Offline Profile Quote Post Goto Top
 
« Previous Topic · The New Coffee Room · Next Topic »
Add Reply
  • Pages:
  • 1
  • 3