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Question for Women: Influence on attraction
Topic Started: May 20 2007, 11:44 AM (806 Views)
sue
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Sense of humour, intelligence, adequate social skills, reasonably healthy. Good looks don't hurt, but someone who just has their sh*t together is the most attractive.
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Mikhailoh
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May 20 2007, 04:13 PM
See? My instincts are bang on.

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Mikhailoh
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Spike Lee from DC
May 20 2007, 04:19 PM
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May 20 2007, 12:17 PM
What does it max at?

x

165...

My 16 year old daughter and I take it out once a week for exercise...

On the stretch where I open it up we normally reach about 135...

12 mpg, though...

10 mpg if you have a heavy foot...

One of the most uncivilized cars I've ever driven...

Exactly my type of car... :hearts: :hearts:

Please tell me you do not actually take your teenage daughter out and do this.
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Mikhailoh
May 20 2007, 01:11 PM
Spike Lee from DC
May 20 2007, 04:19 PM
***musical princess***
May 20 2007, 12:17 PM
What does it max at?

x

165...

My 16 year old daughter and I take it out once a week for exercise...

On the stretch where I open it up we normally reach about 135...

12 mpg, though...

10 mpg if you have a heavy foot...

One of the most uncivilized cars I've ever driven...

Exactly my type of car... :hearts: :hearts:

Please tell me you do not actually take your teenage daughter out and do this.

On a straight portion of a divided highway when the conditons are "clear and 50"
with no other cars around.

The kid loves it.

I drive, however.
"Do the Right Thing"
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Spike Lee from DC
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sue
May 20 2007, 12:57 PM
Sense of humour, intelligence, adequate social skills, reasonably healthy. Good looks don't hurt, but someone who just has their sh*t together is the most attractive.

You know, as I get older, I find that the sex part just gets in the way, especially if you crank it up right away.

I figure we'll get there in due course.

If not, I'm outta there, because it's certainly a key element of an enduring relationship.

Also, my tolerence for 'bullsh*t' has diminished greatly.

Not so sure what an older woman's perspective is on that, though.
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Larry
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Spike, I don't claim to be an expert on women, I just know what I've found works for me.

In my experience, women don't like men who make them feel pressure. It doesn't matter what their age is. They don't want a guy who is so straight laced they feel like they're out with their brother, but they don't want one who comes across as focused on getting in their pants either. It's like how people don't like dealing with a salesman who has dollar signs in his eyes where you can tell all he cares about is getting his hands on your money - women can see the "I want in your pants" signs in a man's eyes, and if that's what they see, you ain't gettin' any...

They like a sense of humor, but one that's appropriate. A self deprecating sense of humor that is natural and not "fake", that isn't laced with sexual innuendo or insincere "lines", and that let's them actually enjoy the humor and fun along with you instead of feeling they are having to play a game or be careful of what they say, or what you're motives are, etc.

They like a guy who, when the evening is over, has conducted himself in such a way that after he's gone they remember the evening as fun and pleasant instead of forced and guarded, with periods of near hostility due to the guy acting like a jerk.

In other words, they want to have fun, enjoy the company, relax, and trust that you respect her. They can tell in a heartbeat if you're insincere, playing a game, focused on "getting somewhere", etc. Personally, I think it is the most crude thing in the world for a man to ask for that. If he has been the kind of man he should be, treated her the way she should be treated, if that's something she wants then she'll ask *you*.

The first key to understanding women though, Spike, is you have to love them. I mean truly love them - all of them. You have to just love women in general. If you do, you won't have to "figure them out", they'll be able to see it, and if they're interested in you, they'll tell you all you need to know in order to "figure them out". Each one is unique, each one a walking piece of proof that God exists.

I absolutely, totally, and without hesitation, love women. I love being around them, listening to them, talking to them, laughing with them, I love their presence. I don't care about where it might lead, I don't care about "what's in it for me", I don't have any agenda - I just love their company. From there, all I can say is.... I don't have any problems....... ;) :D
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Larry, that is well said - I have also found those to be true in my, albeit more limited, experience.

Just treat them with respect - and if it's meant to happen, it will happen.
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Larry, you are one smart dude. Wish there were more men who thought that way.

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Mikhailoh
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Men have sex to relax. Women have to relax to have sex.

You need to like them, and you need to like yourself.

Every woman I hav e ever dated - and sice I stayed single until 35, that is a lot of women.. said one of the things they liked best was my self confidence.
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Spike Lee from DC
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Larry
May 20 2007, 01:28 PM
Spike, I don't claim to be an expert on women, I just know what I've found works for me.

In my experience, women don't like men who make them feel pressure. It doesn't matter what their age is. They don't want a guy who is so straight laced they feel like they're out with their brother, but they don't want one who comes across as focused on getting in their pants either. It's like how people don't like dealing with a salesman who has dollar signs in his eyes where you can tell all he cares about is getting his hands on your money - women can see the "I want in your pants" signs in a man's eyes, and if that's what they see, you ain't gettin' any...

They like a sense of humor, but one that's appropriate. A self deprecating sense of humor that is natural and not "fake", that isn't laced with sexual innuendo or insincere "lines", and that let's them actually enjoy the humor and fun along with you instead of feeling they are having to play a game or be careful of what they say, or what you're motives are, etc.

They like a guy who, when the evening is over, has conducted himself in such a way that after he's gone they remember the evening as fun and pleasant instead of forced and guarded, with periods of near hostility due to the guy acting like a jerk.

In other words, they want to have fun, enjoy the company, relax, and trust that you respect her. They can tell in a heartbeat if you're insincere, playing a game, focused on "getting somewhere", etc.  Personally, I think it is the most crude thing in the world for a man to ask for that. If he has been the kind of man he should be, treated her the way she should be treated, if that's something she wants then she'll ask *you*.

The first key to understanding women though, Spike, is you have to love them.  I mean truly love them - all of them. You have to just love women in general. If you do, you won't have to "figure them out", they'll be able to see it, and if they're interested in you, they'll tell you all you need to know in order to "figure them out". Each one is unique, each one a walking piece of proof that God exists.

I absolutely, totally, and without hesitation, love women. I love being around them, listening to them, talking to them, laughing with them, I love their presence. I don't care about where it might lead, I don't care about "what's in it for me", I don't have any agenda - I just love their company. From there, all I can say is.... I don't have any problems....... ;) :D

To paraphrase what Tom Cruise said in Risky Business:

"Women can smell fear in a man just like you & I smell dog sh*t"

In other words, be yourself, don't act like you have an 'agenda' and above all, learn to to listen to them, and not talk about you, you ,you...

You know all about yourself, but you don't know squat about them...

I think we pretty much see eye to eye on this ...

But I still think as women get older, what they want from a guy changes dramatically and we ending up being the clueless ones, Larry...

Didn't you have a cutie before Princess Summer-Fall-Winter-Spring where you found that to be the case?
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Larry
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A couple of things I've heard from a lot of women over the years....

1. That I walk into any room full of people like I own it, and without saying a word everyone just seems to accept that I do.
2, I apparently have "bedroom eyes"..... :D
3. That I seem dangerous, but never am.
4. That I'm funny as heck.
5. I seem to make some of them want to "change" me........

I don't know what any of it really means, I just keep on being me.....
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Spike Lee from DC
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Larry
May 20 2007, 01:51 PM
A couple of things I've heard from a lot of women over the years....

1. That I walk into any room full of people like I own it, and without saying a word everyone just seems to accept that I do.
2, I apparently have "bedroom eyes"..... :D
3. That I seem dangerous, but never am.
4. That I'm funny as heck.
5. I seem to make some of them want to "change" me........

I don't know what any of it really means, I just keep on being me.....

You sound a lot like Bill Clinton, Larry...

Miss New York, my penultimate girl friend, said she met Clinton and he exuded such charm she nearly dropped her panties right there...
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Didn't you have a cutie before Princess Summer-Fall-Winter-Spring where you found that to be the case?


Spike, I have several "cuties". I don't try to figure *any* of them out. I just enjoy them, love them, and go out and have fun with them. It's only when they decide to "change" me that I get a little antsy. As for what they want changing as they get older, I guess the really young ones (under 35 or so) are still too young to know *what* they want, and are interested in more shallow issues, like what you look like, what kind of car you drive, where you might be on the social "pecking order" among their peers, etc. and once you move from girls to women they become more interested in things of substance.

Either way, the key to understanding them is to just love them because they are women, and respect them.
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Miss New York, my penultimate girl friend, said she met Clinton and he exuded such charm she nearly dropped her panties right there...


Maybe so, but if Monica Lewinsky was telling the truth, she'd find a lot more in my pants.......... :D
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Larry
May 20 2007, 01:57 PM
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Didn't you have a cutie before Princess Summer-Fall-Winter-Spring where you found that to be the case?


Spike, I have several "cuties". I don't try to figure *any* of them out. I just enjoy them, love them, and go out and have fun with them. It's only when they decide to "change" me that I get a little antsy. As for what they want changing as they get older, I guess the really young ones (under 35 or so) are still too young to know *what* they want, and are interested in more shallow issues, like what you look like, what kind of car you drive, where you might be on the social "pecking order" among their peers, etc. and once you move from girls to women they become more interested in things of substance.

Either way, the key to understanding them is to just love them because they are women, and respect them.

Great line in "Tin Cup":

"Honey, you're not one of those girls that tries to fix men, are 'ya?...Men cannot be fixed."
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Larry
May 20 2007, 01:59 PM
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Miss New York, my penultimate girl friend, said she met Clinton and he exuded such charm she nearly dropped her panties right there...


Maybe so, but if Monica Lewinsky was telling the truth, she'd find a lot more in my pants.......... :D

you also suffer what I call the the Marion Barry/ Tom Hanks syndrome...

You can't help but be your natural self...
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Spike Lee from DC
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You also might have made a good USAF pilot....

You appear to operate with a zero pucker factor at all times...
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May 20 2007, 05:31 PM


Just treat them with respect - and if it's meant to happen, it will happen.

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And how are you today?
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Spike Lee from DC
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Larry
May 20 2007, 01:59 PM
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Miss New York, my penultimate girl friend, said she met Clinton and he exuded such charm she nearly dropped her panties right there...


Maybe so, but if Monica Lewinsky was telling the truth, she'd find a lot more in my pants.......... :D

Monica was just a convenient "here, scratch this itch for me" to Bill Clinton...

Something for the Filipino Stewards to clean up afterwards...

The real "cuties" for him were Eleanor Mondale & the wife of the Ambassador to Switzerland...

Unfortunately for Bill, Monica saved the Blue Dress from the Gap & pretty soon she had Verne Jordan of Akin Gump doing a "Driving Miss Daisy" routine for her...

Smart girl...
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Spike Lee from DC
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May 20 2007, 02:22 PM
Larry
May 20 2007, 01:59 PM
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Miss New York, my penultimate girl friend, said she met Clinton and he exuded such charm she nearly dropped her panties right there...


Maybe so, but if Monica Lewinsky was telling the truth, she'd find a lot more in my pants.......... :D

Monica was just a convenient "here, scratch this itch for me" to Bill Clinton...

Something for the Filipino Stewards to clean up afterwards...

The real "cuties' for him were Eleanor Mondale & the wife of the Ambassador to Switzerland...

Unfortunately for Bill, monica saved the Blue Dress from the Gap & pretty soon she had Verne Jordan of Akim Gump doing a "Driving Miss Daisy" for her...

Smart girl...

I actually had a conversation about all this with Sue Schmidt of the Washington Post...

One of the BEST reporters in DC...
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Spike Lee from DC
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Miss New York, my penultimate girl friend, said she met Clinton and he exuded such charm she nearly dropped her panties right there...


Maybe so, but if Monica Lewinsky was telling the truth, she'd find a lot more in my pants.......... :D

Everyone here knows that Paula Jones gave a sworn statement that said Bill Clinton's 'Johnson' looks like Mr. Potato Head, right?


Also has an incredible left hook in it...
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Spike Lee from DC
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Sorry to get off topic...

Larry has that effect...
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Spike Lee from DC
May 20 2007, 06:24 PM
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May 20 2007, 02:22 PM
Larry
May 20 2007, 01:59 PM
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Miss New York, my penultimate girl friend, said she met Clinton and he exuded such charm she nearly dropped her panties right there...


Maybe so, but if Monica Lewinsky was telling the truth, she'd find a lot more in my pants.......... :D

Monica was just a convenient "here, scratch this itch for me" to Bill Clinton...

Something for the Filipino Stewards to clean up afterwards...

The real "cuties' for him were Eleanor Mondale & the wife of the Ambassador to Switzerland...

Unfortunately for Bill, monica saved the Blue Dress from the Gap & pretty soon she had Verne Jordan of Akim Gump doing a "Driving Miss Daisy" for her...

Smart girl...

I actually had a conversation about all this with Sue Schmidt of the Washington Post...

One of the BEST reporters in DC...

Spike, no fair padding your post count, by quoting and responding to yourself!! :lol: :lol:


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May 20 2007, 01:57 PM
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Didn't you have a cutie before Princess Summer-Fall-Winter-Spring where you found that to be the case?


Spike, I have several "cuties". I don't try to figure *any* of them out. I just enjoy them, love them, and go out and have fun with them. It's only when they decide to "change" me that I get a little antsy. As for what they want changing as they get older, I guess the really young ones (under 35 or so) are still too young to know *what* they want, and are interested in more shallow issues, like what you look like, what kind of car you drive, where you might be on the social "pecking order" among their peers, etc. and once you move from girls to women they become more interested in things of substance.

Either way, the key to understanding them is to just love them because they are women, and respect them.

I think a lot of younger ones want a family, Larry.

It's the older ones I can't figure out so well.
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Spike Lee from DC
May 20 2007, 02:21 PM
Also, my tolerence for 'bullsh*t' has diminished greatly.

Not so sure what an older woman's perspective is on that, though.

That's what I was getting at. Confidence, knows how to function in the real world, no b.s.
Stuff that may have seemed like fun, quirky traits in younger guys, is just tiresome now.

Of course, I'm not entirely sure what you mean by 'older' women, and if I fit that category. :P
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