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I NEED HELP! QUICKLY!; Womans!!!!
Topic Started: Nov 9 2006, 02:04 PM (275 Views)
CrashTest
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Ok, ok.

There is this woman here who is a little bit older than myself. (Only a few years)

We have known each other for 3-4 years or so, and always been friendly - and sometimes flirtatious. She always laughs at my jokes, and all of the usual signs.

She has a boyfriend, so do I just give it up? I don't want to flirt with her and then it goes badly because she is just being friendly...so how do I find out if there is anything else there without getting too into it?

All of the signs are there, but she could just be being friendly. How can I tell them apart!?


I will see her today, so I need advice fast!
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M&M's
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Ask how her relationship is going with her boyfriend.
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AlbertaCrude
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Then look at her straight in the eyes and lick your eyebrows.
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CrashTest
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Do you think it is a good idea to bring him up? I guess I can see what she feels about him, or she may not like the question.

I like this though, it may be the door I need!
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If she doesn't like the question, then your answer is that she is happy with whom she is with.
My child shows GOOD CHARACTERIZATION in an ongoing game of D&D
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CrashTest
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How should I ask it? It may feel a little bit awkward!
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kenny
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Screw them both.
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Larry
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Mmmmmmm, pie!
CrashTest
Nov 9 2006, 06:08 PM
Do you think it is a good idea to bring him up? I guess I can see what she feels about him, or she may not like the question.

I like this though, it may be the door I need!

Man, you are *SO* not every gonna get a woman........

Chill out, guy. Just be yourself, and make sure she enjoys her encounters with you, no matter how short, no matter how casual. Bring up the other guy??????????? Sheesh!! You're supposed to be busy letting her form a positive opinion about *you*, not reminding her of somebody else! Just because a girl has a boyfriend doesn't mean anything. She will decide if she wants to make a change or not. But she won't make a change from a current boyfriend to another guy who keeps talking about her current boyfriend.

When I was your age I took a *lot* of girls away from their boyfriends. And I didn't do it by discussing the boyfriend. I focused on her.

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AlbertaCrude
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Like I said, look her in the eyes then lick your eyebrows. Focus Crash, focus.
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CrashTest
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Yeah, but I've always done that - focus on her - and I think she responds very well to it.

How do I get to the next step!?
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The 89th Key
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You can ask how her boyfriend is doing or whatever...just bring him up and then read the signals from there.

If she seems interested in you still, IMO all you can do is hang out with her and no more. You cant let yourself go to the next mental or physical level because she has a boyfriend and it's a carpy thing to do to mess with another man's woman.

I have too much experience in this field. I have hung out with and liked a few girls with boyfriends, but I wouldn't let myself go to that next level. It's up to them...if they like who you are, then it'll work out. Otherwise oh well.
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***musical princess***
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Larry
Nov 9 2006, 10:20 PM
When I was your age I took a *lot* of girls away from their boyfriends.

Did you not feel guilty?

x
x Caroline x
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kenny
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Have you considered the benefits of abstinence till marriage?

Sure would get a lot more practicing in.

No diseases.

Less poverty.
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Larry
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Mmmmmmm, pie!
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Nov 9 2006, 06:43 PM
Larry
Nov 9 2006, 10:20 PM
When I was your age I took a *lot* of girls away from their boyfriends.

Did you not feel guilty?

x

Why should I feel guilty? They weren't married or anything. They were just "going steady". Fair game in my book. It wasn't like I forced them, you know. They made their own decisions. I don't agree with this "code of honor" thing 89th is talking about. If they are engaged, or married, then no, don't butt in. If they're just "going steady", or dating exclusively, hey - all is fair in love and war. It's not my job to let the other guy have a pass.
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Mikhailoh
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Larry
Nov 9 2006, 06:20 PM
CrashTest
Nov 9 2006, 06:08 PM
Do you think it is a good idea to bring him up? I guess I can see what she feels about him, or she may not like the question.

      I like this though, it may be the door I need!

Man, you are *SO* not every gonna get a woman........

Chill out, guy. Just be yourself, and make sure she enjoys her encounters with you, no matter how short, no matter how casual. Bring up the other guy??????????? Sheesh!! You're supposed to be busy letting her form a positive opinion about *you*, not reminding her of somebody else! Just because a girl has a boyfriend doesn't mean anything. She will decide if she wants to make a change or not. But she won't make a change from a current boyfriend to another guy who keeps talking about her current boyfriend.

When I was your age I took a *lot* of girls away from their boyfriends. And I didn't do it by discussing the boyfriend. I focused on her.

There you go.. sage advice. She is not married, she is not engaged. She is FAIR GAME. WTF do YOU care about her boyfriend?
Once in his life, every man is entitled to fall madly in love with a gorgeous redhead - Lucille Ball
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***musical princess***
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Larry
Nov 9 2006, 11:03 PM
***musical princess***
Nov 9 2006, 06:43 PM
Larry
Nov 9 2006, 10:20 PM
When I was your age I took a *lot* of girls away from their boyfriends.

Did you not feel guilty?

x

Why should I feel guilty? They weren't married or anything. They were just "going steady". Fair game in my book. It wasn't like I forced them, you know. They made their own decisions. I don't agree with this "code of honor" thing 89th is talking about. If they are engaged, or married, then no, don't butt in. If they're just "going steady", or dating exclusively, hey - all is fair in love and war. It's not my job to let the other guy have a pass.

Well, fair do's to you, but personally, i don't think that's right.

I would hate to think that another female would try and 'steal' my boyfriend from me.

x
x Caroline x
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Mikhailoh
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I did too, Larry. Did I feel guilty.. HELL NO! It happened to me too, although not often. If he wants to take that woman out of circulation, he needs to put that wee little glittering commitment on that finger. And even then.... until the marriage...

If she bites,she was ready to go anyway, Crash. If it's not you it'll be someone else.
Once in his life, every man is entitled to fall madly in love with a gorgeous redhead - Lucille Ball
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Mikhailoh
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***musical princess***
Nov 9 2006, 07:08 PM
Larry
Nov 9 2006, 11:03 PM
***musical princess***
Nov 9 2006, 06:43 PM
Larry
Nov 9 2006, 10:20 PM
When I was your age I took a *lot* of girls away from their boyfriends.

Did you not feel guilty?

x

Why should I feel guilty? They weren't married or anything. They were just "going steady". Fair game in my book. It wasn't like I forced them, you know. They made their own decisions. I don't agree with this "code of honor" thing 89th is talking about. If they are engaged, or married, then no, don't butt in. If they're just "going steady", or dating exclusively, hey - all is fair in love and war. It's not my job to let the other guy have a pass.

Well, fair do's to you, but personally, i don't think that's right.

I would hate to think that another female would try and 'steal' my boyfriend from me.

x

Think it, MP.. no, don't just think it, carve it in your forehead.


Once in his life, every man is entitled to fall madly in love with a gorgeous redhead - Lucille Ball
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***musical princess***
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HOLY CARP!!!
Mikhailoh
Nov 9 2006, 11:12 PM
***musical princess***
Nov 9 2006, 07:08 PM
Larry
Nov 9 2006, 11:03 PM
***musical princess***
Nov 9 2006, 06:43 PM
Larry
Nov 9 2006, 10:20 PM
When I was your age I took a *lot* of girls away from their boyfriends.

Did you not feel guilty?

x

Why should I feel guilty? They weren't married or anything. They were just "going steady". Fair game in my book. It wasn't like I forced them, you know. They made their own decisions. I don't agree with this "code of honor" thing 89th is talking about. If they are engaged, or married, then no, don't butt in. If they're just "going steady", or dating exclusively, hey - all is fair in love and war. It's not my job to let the other guy have a pass.

Well, fair do's to you, but personally, i don't think that's right.

I would hate to think that another female would try and 'steal' my boyfriend from me.

x

Think it, MP.. no, don't just think it, carve it in your forehead.

What would i want to do that for?

I actually do TRUST my boyfriend.

Other women can try and steal him all they want.

x
x Caroline x
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CrashTest
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Off I go, may providence and the hand of Set guide my spirit!

Just kidding. To be honest, I do not care too much either way what happens - I have other prospects on my plate so my attitude is nonchalant!
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sue
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CrashTest
Nov 9 2006, 03:33 PM
"Like I said, look her in the eyes then lick your eyebrows. Focus Crash, focus. "

Yeah, but I've always done that - focus on her - and I think she responds very well to it.

How do I get to the next step!?

Lick her eyebrows? :shrug:
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sue
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Mikhailoh
Nov 9 2006, 04:10 PM
If she bites,she was ready to go anyway, Crash.

Right. Nobody 'steals' anyone away from a solid relationship; only those who want to be stolen.
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