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Life is fragile; ...death of a friend.
Topic Started: Oct 14 2006, 12:27 PM (423 Views)
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A good friend from high-school, Jen, (same age, took some classes together) passed away this morning after battling a brain tumor for the last couple of months. It was semi-expected, but not this soon, and never seems real. Very surreal. She was healthy enough to be out at a bar as recently as last July, but since then it got exponentially worse to the point where doctors were trying "test" treatment since conventional treatment wasn't doing anything, sort of an all-or-nothing gamble with inherent low odds, and she obviously didn't make it - after being bed-ridden for the last couple weeks at home. I feel bad for her family and friends even closer to her than me. The hardest phone calls you ever have to make are ones like the one I just made to my best friend who was closer to Jen than I was, and even visited her last Saturday.

Life is fragile, indeed.
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I/m sorry 89'th. It takes something tragic like the death of your friend to make you realise that life is fragile.
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very sorry 89 :hug:
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A picture of her and her brother...

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Thanks apple and newpiano....very nice of you all. Although I'm didn't start this thread for sympathy at all...thanks anyway. :)
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89th. Very sorry about your friend. I can tell tell that you would be there for her friends and family.

God bless.
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Thats such a shame. She's so young.

Sorry, 89.
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My condolences to her family and friends. My prayers are with you. :hug:
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She's way too young. What a shame.

I'm truly sorry, Isaac.
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I'm sorry 89th.

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Very sad news. Sorry, Isaac. :sad:
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Very sorry. :( :( :(

Life is so precious.

We forget.
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Heartfelt condolences to you, her friends + her family. so young... :(
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so sorry, 89th. My condolences and prayers.

I don't need to tell you, you already know she's in a better place.
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My condolences Isaac.

I too lost my best friend to brain cancer when he was 23 years old and I was 25.

I have very deep empathy for you right now.

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What a beautiful young woman.
How very tragic, Isaac. I'm so sorry :hug:
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Isaac... i am so sorry...

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Thanks for your condolences, everyone.

What I find the hardest part about death, is how absolute it is. The person isn't just away or here or there....the person is literally gone forever, until you hopefully meet up with them on the other side. And that hits you hard, when one day they are living and breathing next to you. You have memories of just hanging out with them, a living person with a beautiful soul, and the next minute they are gone from this world. I find comfort in saying a prayer and knowing she is listening to it. I really do.
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Sorry 89th, that's terrible. She was so beautiful. I lost a good life-long friend when I was about your age too (motorcycle accident) and it was the only time in my life before or since that I felt an urge to become religious - I could sense how much easier that would make it, to believe they were in a better place.
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How very sad.

I'm sorry.
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TomK
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89th--so sorry for the loss of your friend.

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Oct 14 2006, 01:47 PM
A picture of her and her brother...

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And who's the guy on the left?


My condolences, Isaac. I've had a couple of friends die way too young (19, 24, 32 y.o.).
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Yeah, it's odd, since she's one of (if not) THE first person in my general group of friends from high school to die. She was very popular, very pretty, very smart (I'm not just saying those things, I really mean them) and even on the track team with me, so it really shows you it can happen to even the most healthy and promising of people. I almost asked her out one time too. She was also VP of the National Honor Society branch (I was actually President when she was VP), so we hung out a lot.

And Ivory, the one on the left is the school mascot. Not sure why he's wearing a polo shirt though. ^_^
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Just a general question from a person with not much experience at funerals at all.

What's the next step?

Is there generally a viewing at a funeral home? How soon after the death?

What about the actual funeral...usually the day after the viewing?

Anything else?
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it varies a lot, Isaac, will depend on the family's wishes. Call your friend again...get the details. Or watch the paper, but it seems you're close enough to call instead of look around for it.
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