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How to get out of a bad relationship?
Topic Started: Oct 12 2006, 07:50 PM (393 Views)
Daniel\
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More than 3 years (less than 4) AND if she is his girlfriend- they are not married, do not live together, do not have children, and have not commited to each other for life.

IF these things are true I have to admit I would not have A LOT of sympathy for him. There are people in far worse situations. If he wants to get out of it- he should be direct, firm, and kind- but he should just do it. If she is an immediate danger to herself- call the police. They will get her help.



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sue
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Oct 12 2006, 09:22 PM
David ran into an interesting idea, the "he needs her" one.

Maybe we can go a little bit further into that? I feel there may be some answers there.

I'd say that if he's put up with this for over three years, he has developed a need to 'be needed'. Feeds his ego to have someone so desperate to be with him, so clingy, threatening to hurt herself etc. Could be that he is afraid a new relationship wouldn't provide him with that same feeling, as much as he doesn't really like the drama.

He needs to get on the bus, Gus.
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katie
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Yes, he's a wimp. He is about as unhappy as you can be.

In a strange way, he likes the utility she provides - like the occasional cooking or presents, but he has a hard time moving away from her - she just is too attached.


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She's fairly crazy. Well, I guess all women are crazy.

How does he deal with the fallout? She will probably threaten to hurt herself, go to his house crying, the works.

I am not so sure he is emotionally stable enough to handle it.


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Yeah. She's caught him cheating more than once - and everything was in the open. She put up with it, and now it is even worse.


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In what ways would he need her, that override the unhealthy nature of his relationship?


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David ran into an interesting idea, the "he needs her" one.

Maybe we can go a little bit further into that? I feel there may be some answers there.


Well .. my gut feeling .. the sex is still there OR the sex is still good b/t the 2 of them.
Thus, there's nothing you can do Crash.
Nope.
One of them will have to find someone better in order for this to end.

My 2 cents.
:)

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