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| Tweet Topic Started: May 9 2006, 10:01 AM (326 Views) | |
| Jolly | May 9 2006, 10:01 AM Post #1 |
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Geaux Tigers!
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Women.... http://www.chicagotribune.com/business/chi...ack=1&cset=true |
| The main obstacle to a stable and just world order is the United States.- George Soros | |
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| DivaDeb | May 9 2006, 10:16 AM Post #2 |
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HOLY CARP!!!
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yeah...that's mature |
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| Axtremus | May 9 2006, 12:02 PM Post #3 |
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HOLY CARP!!!
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Can't say I'm surprised. Is any one else really surprised by the finding? |
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| Kincaid | May 9 2006, 12:05 PM Post #4 |
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HOLY CARP!!!
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I don't want to register so can't read the article. However the quote that DD posted reminded me of the stunningly self-centered question from the college girl in the '92 Presidential debate asking what President was going to do for her if elected. Now that I think about it, I can readily imagine the thoughts going thru his mind at that moment... |
| Kincaid - disgusted Republican Partisan since 2006. | |
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| Optimistic | May 9 2006, 12:09 PM Post #5 |
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HOLY CARP!!!
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Never mind portfolio, women want eye candy A new study finds financially independent women are taking a page from the men's playbook and seeking looks more than money By Lisa Anderson Tribune national correspondent Published May 7, 2006 NEW YORK -- Why can't a woman be more like a man? Henry Higgins famously first posed the question 50 years ago in the Broadway debut of Lerner and Loewe's smash musical "My Fair Lady." The words were hardly out of his mouth before women barged into bastions traditionally reserved for men, from the firehouse to the clubhouse to the International Space Station. Even Barbie became an astronaut. While it might seem like women are doing just about everything once exclusive to males, Scottish researchers believe they have discovered a new area where women, particularly those who are financially independent, are just beginning to mimic men: choosing looks over lucre when shopping for a mate. "We know that we are becoming more equal in the workplace and the economy. We now know that this ability of women to provide for themselves is causing them to change their mate preferences. Our preferences are becoming more like male preferences," said Fhionna Moore, who led the study at the School of Psychology at the University of St. Andrews in Scotland. Conducted online, the study examined the responses of 1,851 heterosexual women age 18 to 35 who were single, in relationships or married. Most participants were from the United Kingdom, elsewhere in Europe and the U.S. The study, "The effects of female control of resources on sex-differentiated mate preferences," appears this month in the journal Evolution and Human Behavior. The title might not be catchy, but the findings are intriguing. Essentially, the results turn the historical rules of sexual pursuit upside down. "Historically, if you go all the way back to the cavemen . . . the man went out and got the meat and brought it back to the woman, and the woman prepared it. So, historically, women looked to men to be providers, and men, historically, have been criticized as being immediately more struck by the physical appearance of a woman," said Daniel Howard, a consumer psychologist, professor and chairman of the marketing department at Southern Methodist University's Cox School of Business in Dallas. While men chose women whose youth and beauty signaled health and fertility, women had to choose partners who would sustain them during the labor-intensive raising of children when women could not provide for themselves or their offspring, Moore pointed out. The labor-intensive nature of child rearing hasn't changed, but the financial ability of many women to care for themselves and their families has, and that changes the whole equation. "It's almost as if it were the beginning of a complete role reversal," she said. Confidence changes rules For Allison Agliardo, it's less about role reversal and more about confidence. "I have just gotten more mature and confident in myself. Instead of asking what can I give someone else, it's saying, `Hey, what can he give me?'" said Agliardo, 37, a civil engineer in New York. And, earning good salaries, she and many of her friends are not looking for men to support them. "Now, all of a sudden, I don't need that security because I've got it. I've got my own bank account," she said. And, she added, women have earned the ability to be more selective. "I think men are willing to say, `She's my trophy wife, she's beautiful but dumb as a stump.' Women, I think their standards are higher. We want them [men] to look good, but they have to be a whole package," she said. "I don't know any of my girlfriends who are interested in somebody who's just eye candy." The other major finding in the study is that the more ambitious a woman is about career, financial independence and decision-making at home and at work, the more likely she will seek a younger mate. "I think it's probably because if you're very ambitious, you're expecting to have a career and resource control, so you're not expecting to be dependent on an older, wealthier partner," Moore said. She was surprised the study found no correlation between a woman's financial independence and age preference in a mate, although wealthier women tended toward older men. However, some older, well-heeled women are taking a page from the male dating manual: scouting for prospects who are attractive and younger, sometimes called boy-toys. The Ivana Trump card Ivana Trump, businesswoman and famous first ex-wife of The Donald, is gleefully one of them. Asked her reaction to the study findings, Trump said in an e-mail, "I love it--life, love and a woman's salary are catching up to me!" The 50-something Trump is dating the 30-something Rossano Rubicondi, an Italian actor and dancer, with whom she recently opened a restaurant on the French Riviera. "I love having financial independence. I love being paid for what I know, for the `brand' I am. And yes, I can really understand that a woman's net worth reflects who she chooses to be with. It's worked that way with men all these years . . . now, it works just as well for women," Trump wrote. "I don't need a man to support me. I don't need a man to pay any of my bills. I come to a relationship with a lot of assets--most importantly, I come with a zest for life. And, for that, you need a young man." In fact, finding a match for a beautiful, wealthy 40-year-old woman from among six handsome 20-something men formed the premise of "Ivana Young Man," Trump's recent two-hour reality show on the Oxygen network. Trump's signature line on the show: "It's better to be a baby-sitter than a nurse." "The boy-toy thing is really about women who are very powerful and older," said John Gray, a psychologist and author, most famously of the 1993 best seller "Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus." While older males tend to resist a woman's power, "a younger man who has not formed an identity for himself . . . is much more willing to yield in her direction," he said. Beauty and youth are poor criteria on which to base a marriage, said SMU's Howard. "I have a hard time imagining in the long run that this is going to be a significant lifestyle choice for a woman. Why? Because of the experiences of men: It's mostly pain," he said. "What you are seeing here, mostly, are some women making the mistakes of men. It doesn't work," he said. "Take it from us." None of the study's findings surprised Francesca Mercurio, a New York psychotherapist. "I do see a lot of women who are financially very stable and ambitious and successful and single into their older years. The trend I see is they're willing to take more risks," she said. "Whether the risk is going after the younger, hot-looking guy or whether the risk is going after someone even richer, I just think they're taking more risks across-the-board, however they define risk, because their financial safety is already settled." Moreover, she said, women's growing confidence also explains their freedom to consider men's looks more than their financial prospects. Moore said that although she was specifically interested in studying the impact of attractiveness and wealth, those hardly were the traits women found most desirable in a mate. "What always comes out on top with women, and sometimes with men, is kindness and things like dependable character. And that has been shown over most of the studies that have been done," she said. "We are not completely shallow." |
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PHOTOS I must have a prodigious quantity of mind; it takes me as much as a week, sometimes, to make it up. - Mark Twain We shall not cease from exploration And the end of all our exploring Will be to arrive where we started And know the place for the first time. -T. S. Eliot | |
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| JBryan | May 9 2006, 12:11 PM Post #6 |
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I am the grey one
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My wife married me for my looks. I looked like I could never land anyone else. |
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"Any man who would make an X rated movie should be forced to take his daughter to see it". - John Wayne There is a line we cross when we go from "I will believe it when I see it" to "I will see it when I believe it". Henry II: I marvel at you after all these years. Still like a democratic drawbridge: going down for everybody. Eleanor: At my age there's not much traffic anymore. From The Lion in Winter. | |
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| DivaDeb | May 9 2006, 12:21 PM Post #7 |
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HOLY CARP!!!
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Lack of surprise does not preclude disgust. (married for love, not looks OR money) |
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| sue | May 9 2006, 12:23 PM Post #8 |
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HOLY CARP!!!
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whew, glad she said that. I was getting worried. Good thing she did the study. |
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| Friday | May 9 2006, 04:49 PM Post #9 |
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Senior Carp
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I married for sex...and looks...and money....no wait he didn't have money...and oh yeah love....
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