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a plea from a moderator
Topic Started: May 8 2006, 06:48 AM (1,450 Views)
justme
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HOLY CARP!!!
I can't believe there's an argument about it.

I lost sleep over this last night. I take this very seriously even if others don't.

I'm not worried about strange lurkers, Kenny.

And there's nothing IMO that's funny about any of this.

But, I'm not going to argue or try to defend what I've done in trying to help a young girl stay out of trouble.

Jgoo, as far as I'm concerned can find another moderator.

I'm sick of it.



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Klotz
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kenny
HOLY CARP!!!
justme
May 8 2006, 08:59 AM
I can't believe there's an argument about it.

I lost sleep over this last night. I take this very seriously even if others don't.

I'm not worried about strange lurkers, Kenny.

And there's nothing IMO that's funny about any of this.

But, I'm not going to argue or try to defend what I've done in trying to help a young girl stay out of trouble.

Jgoo, as far as I'm concerned can find another moderator.

I'm sick of it.

Wow

There's no agrument from me.
Who said anything was funny?
No need to defend.

Wow.

Have you read all the posts here?
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John D'Oh
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Edit - posted in response to Deb's post, not the in-between posts.

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Think about the socks in this place. People can be pretty weird sometimes and you really don't know the ones you think you know a lot of the time. The only smart thing to do is err on the side of caution.



I think there's also the issue of setting up boundaries, even informally in this way. What tends to happen if no boundary is set is that the line gets pushed back little by little and nobody really notices it happening. It would be a shame if this happened here. What MP posted was pretty harmless, and was meant only in fun, but at some point, it stops being innocent fun, and we're all worse off.
What do you mean "we", have you got a mouse in your pocket?
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Klotz
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katie
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Look folks ...
Posting these things *here* invites attention, hassles & potentially trouble.

I'll leave it at this.
'Nuff said.

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M&M's
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May 8 2006, 08:29 AM
M&M's
May 8 2006, 08:20 AM
What does age have to do with it at all? No matter what the age, those kind of pictures can bring trouble to anyone who posts them.

Oh sure..... this is how you get out of posting yours, eh? :lol:

I don't post mine because it would be scary!!! :hair: :puke:
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justme
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HOLY CARP!!!

Klotz,

Thank you for editing your post.

Caroline and I both are extremely upset over this. It's not funny. I know you were trying to inject humor and I can appreciate that but it's not humorous at all.

Thank you,

Peggy
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justme
May 8 2006, 09:59 AM
I can't believe there's an argument about it.

I lost sleep over this last night. I take this very seriously even if others don't.

I'm not worried about strange lurkers, Kenny.

And there's nothing IMO that's funny about any of this.

But, I'm not going to argue or try to defend what I've done in trying to help a young girl stay out of trouble.

Jgoo, as far as I'm concerned can find another moderator.

I'm sick of it.

Justme,
Moderating is a tough job.
You did the right thing.
I'm 100% behind you.

BTW,
Thanks Klotz :)

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George K
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M&M's
May 8 2006, 12:09 PM
I don't post mine because it would be scary!!!

No, M&M's.


This:

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DivaDeb
May 8 2006, 10:52 AM
it's a *good* question, Kenny...the truth of the matter is, I have enough expertice, not just experience, to answer it. I was a sysop on Compuserve for many years. Those were closed membership forums, much more so than this one is. It was back in the days where you had to belong to Compuserve itself in order to participate in the forums. It is quite amazing what you don't know about the people who read the boards but don't post. It's sometimes even *more* amazing what you don't know about the people who post on a regular basis. The internet is a medium that is rife with sociopathic personalities. It's very easy for people to be 'somebody else' when they're typing. I remember hosting trivia chat conferences where, over the course of an hour's light entertainment it would become obvious that a 20 something woman who had posted frequently about herself, her likes, her dislikes, what she did for a living, her family etc, would quite clearly turn out to be a guy, more likely in his late 40s-early 50s than the cute little lady he had been pretending to be.

Think about the socks in this place. People can be pretty weird sometimes and you really don't know the ones you think you know a lot of the time. The only smart thing to do is err on the side of caution.

Amen.

Back in the OCR I had a pretty pointed discussion with KathyK. At the time, she had posted up enough personal info that I knew where she lived, where she worked, her real name.

With that type of information, it's a very easy thing to blow into town for a couple of days, establish a person's routines through observation, and leave them dead in a road ditch somewhere with very few clues left as to the killer's identity.

On the 'net there are just some things that are not fit subjects for public discussion or perusal.
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DivaDeb
HOLY CARP!!!
here's another thing not a lot of you may realize...especially in forums that have a history of people meeting places, like at performances or for dinners, there is a lot of precedent for lurkers who observe enough information to figure out when someone will be away from home, having deduced enough about them from prior posting to know where that home is, and take advantage of knowing they're at some performance, or are on vacation, to rob them (or their parents) blind. It's not always so personal as obsession, sometimes it's just opportunism.
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kenny
HOLY CARP!!!
I should be dead by now.
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DivaDeb
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me too Kenny
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Klotz
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Jolly
May 8 2006, 08:28 PM
Back in the OCR I had a pretty pointed discussion with KathyK. At the time, she had posted up enough personal info that I knew where she lived, where she worked, her real name.


To find Kathyk coordinates was a piece of cake !

I also remember one picture posted by PianoJerome. It was meant to show the mess in his tiny dorm room. On the floor, there was a big yellow enveloppe with all his name/address details. Careless Sam. Another piece of paper contained his registration details to some info site ( thanks Sam :thumb: ).
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Klotz
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May 8 2006, 08:57 PM
there is a lot of precedent for lurkers who observe enough information to figure out when someone will be away from home, having deduced enough about them from prior posting to know where that home is, and take advantage of knowing they're at some performance, or are on vacation, to rob them (or their parents) blind.

No way, ma'am ! No thief would bear the terrible boredom of piano forums just to find out when someone will leave his home and then rob him of his Henle editions ! No way !
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