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My little guy and issues at school
Topic Started: Mar 22 2006, 04:13 PM (193 Views)
dolmansaxlil
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HOLY CARP!!!
Liam loves school. He learns quickly and enjoys it. He loves playing with his friends. He likes his teacher.

This morning, I woke him up and the first thing he said was, "Mum, today do I go to little school (daycare) or big school (junior kindergarten)?"

"Big school."

"Awwww. I don't want to go."

"Why not?"

"Because Cameron is mean to me and hits me at recess."

I asked him what was happening, and he said that Cameron and two other kids run after him and hit him. I said, "And what should you do if they are doing that?"

"Keep away from them."

"That's right. And what if that doesn't work?"

"Tell the teacher."

So just before I dropped him off at my mum's (a grade 8 girl picks him up about a half hour later to walk him to school), I talked to him about it again, and made sure he knew what to do.

I wasn't sure if I should call the school and just give the teacher a heads up. I know that some of the stuff that goes on in the school yard - especially with the really little kids - is hard to see because it's not always clear if it's a game or what have you. But the "I don't want to go to school" thing really bugged me. It's not the first time I've heard these three boys names in situations like this - it's just the first time Liam has reacted this way.

So, tomorrow morning I'm going to call his teacher and let her know what he said. It could be an exagerration on his part, but I'd rather she be aware so she can keep an eye out.

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Kincaid
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I think you handled it well. Hope the teacher is rightly concerned and vigilant and doesn't blow you off. (You should have a little extra pull here).

Now, Larry will come and say you need to teach Liam how use the heel of his palm to shove the cartliage...well, you know what I mean.
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DivaDeb
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You are right to let the teacher know. I don't how they handle it in Liam's school, but in some grade schools here, there are 'recess aides' that take the kids outdoors, or the teachers will trade off sometimes...so Liam's teacher should make sure that whoever is out there with those kids who might be budding bullies knows to keep an eye out. I doubt he's exaggerating much, Dol...if he was, he probably wouldn't take the "I don't want to go" tack, since he likes school.
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Steve Miller
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I'd definitely call the school. Nothing too "official" - just a little request that he/she be aware of what Liam said and will you let me know if there is a problem I should be aware of?

Forge a partnership, if you will. This will include of course, willingness to listen if it turns out Liam is not completely blameless in this situaton. Happened to my kid, which is why I adopted a "trust-and-verify" approach to dealing with this sort of thing.

What I would try not to do is to make a big deal out of it unless absolutely necessary. Kids do best when they figure out how to deal with things like this on their own, and if you can work things such that Liam thinks he's handled it unassisted he wil be better equipped to handle such things in the future.
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QuirtEvans
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I think Steve has it right. If the school is on its toes, it will want to know about stuff like this so it can fix it, whatever the real nature of the problem is.
It would be unwise to underestimate what large groups of ill-informed people acting together can achieve. -- John D'Oh, January 14, 2010.
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