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Regifting vs antique/collectables store
Topic Started: Dec 6 2005, 07:38 AM (405 Views)
ilm
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Okay, what is your opinion if you or someone else buys a gift for you from an antique/collectible stores versus regifting?
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A gift is a gift...as long as I don't know where it came from. :P
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sue
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Aaaarrrrgggghhhh.

'regifting' :dead: that should've made it on the 'words that drive you nuts' thread.


If someone gives you a gift that is obviously something you like, something that has some meaning to you, who the heck cares where it came from?


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Where the gift came from isn't as important as the thought that went into it. I could go out to the store and buy a really expensive new toy for someone, but if I bought the gift just for the sake of giving him/her something I don't really see the point of that. If I really put some thought into a gift and search for something that I know will be useful and/or enjoyable for the person, then it shouldn't matter if the gift isn't a new item.

*ok, now I look up and see I'm basically reiterating what Sue said. oh well, that's my dos centimos anyways :)
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I bought the gift just for the sake of giving him/her something I don't really see the point of that.


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The most appreciated gifts I've ever given or received have been unique antique gifts that have a lot of thought behind them.
You can never get enough of what you don't need to make you happy.
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Aqua Letifer
Dec 6 2005, 11:12 AM
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I bought the gift just for the sake of giving him/her something I don't really see the point of that.


PR.

Huh?
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I must have a prodigious quantity of mind; it takes me as much as a week, sometimes, to make it up.
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-T. S. Eliot
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Aqua Letifer
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Public Relations.
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Larry
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Since I own an antiques & Collectibles business, I can speak to this. Lots of people collect lots of things, and if it's collectible then it isn't going to be new usually. If the receiver of the gift has spent years collecting a particular pattern of depression glass and is only missing one or two pieces for instance, if you find those missing pieces and give it to them as a gift I can assure you they will appreciate that more than if you bought them a big screen TV or something like that. It shows that you didn't just go out and buy them something, you have taken the time to really *know* them, to know what their interests are, right down to the point of knowing what's missing in their collection. *That* is a gift!

Just because it's used doesn't mean it's not a worthy gift. It may be *the* gift.
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sue
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Dec 6 2005, 08:10 AM
Where the gift came from isn't as important as the thought that went into it. I could go out to the store and buy a really expensive new toy for someone, but if I bought the gift just for the sake of giving him/her something I don't really see the point of that. If I really put some thought into a gift and search for something that I know will be useful and/or enjoyable for the person, then it shouldn't matter if the gift isn't a new item.


I totally agree with you, Optimistic. Gifts that are given just because they 'had' to, seem really ugly to me. Doesn't make anyone feel good, why bother?
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Aqua Letifer
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Well, I'm not supporting the whole "get something for somebody, just 'cause" idea, just mentioning that a lot of that goes on. I'm not a fan either, but you'll find it pretty much everywhere you go.
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Optimistic
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I have a similar beef with buying a card with a pre-written message. . . but since I've found I'm usually alone in this gripe, I won't get into it :ph43r:
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I must have a prodigious quantity of mind; it takes me as much as a week, sometimes, to make it up.
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We shall not cease from exploration
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Will be to arrive where we started
And know the place for the first time.
-T. S. Eliot
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sue
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Larry
Dec 6 2005, 08:19 AM
Since I own an antiques & Collectibles business, I can speak to this. Lots of people collect lots of things, and if it's collectible then it isn't going to be new usually. If the receiver of the gift has spent years collecting a particular pattern of depression glass and is only missing one or two pieces for instance, if you find those missing pieces and give it to them as a gift I can assure you they will appreciate that more than if you bought them a big screen TV or something like that. It shows that you didn't just go out and buy them something, you have taken the time to really *know* them, to know what their interests are, right down to the point of knowing what's missing in their collection. *That* is a gift!

Just because it's used doesn't mean it's not a worthy gift. It may be *the* gift.

Exactly, Larry! Gifts do not need to be shiny new things. Someone once gave me an old blue glass vase from a second hand store. Wasn't perfect, had some scratches, but it was the beautiful blue that they knew I loved. It was a perfect gift, a treasure.
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Well, y'know what? I think cards are stupid in general. Flat-out tell them what you think of them, face to face; what's with putting it in writing? That's quite fine if you do, of course, but FAR from necessary.
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Optimistic
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Dec 6 2005, 11:24 AM
Well, y'know what?  I think cards are stupid in general.  Flat-out tell them what you think of them, face to face; what's with putting it in writing?  That's quite fine if you do, of course, but FAR from necessary.

No, not necessary, but lots of people like to receive written messages. Sure, you tell it to them too, but I think making someone a card is a nice gesture. My parents always look forward to homemade cards. I like receiving personalized cards from my friends. Sure, it's nothing they can't tell me in person, but it's nice to look back years later at the goofy things we wrote each other.
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I must have a prodigious quantity of mind; it takes me as much as a week, sometimes, to make it up.
- Mark Twain


We shall not cease from exploration
And the end of all our exploring
Will be to arrive where we started
And know the place for the first time.
-T. S. Eliot
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sue
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Dec 6 2005, 08:23 AM
I have a similar beef with buying a card with a pre-written message. . . but since I've found I'm usually alone in this gripe, I won't get into it :ph43r:

Ha! You should see me card shopping :rolleyes: I quite often buy blank 'art' cards, so I can write my own message, but will spend ridiculous amounts of time looking at the humorous cards, looking for just the right joke for the recipient. I get real joy from watching (or imagining) someone's face break into a big smile; it's time well spent for me.

I hardly ever buy 'serious' cards, they're just too sappy and impersonal.
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Aqua Letifer
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I once bought a religious "congradulations on your promotion" card for my mom's birthday, because I thought the card was so ridiculous I couldn't pass it up.

When she read it, my mother and father just stared at it blankly while I was in stitches on the floor.

Awkward. :(
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sue
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Dec 6 2005, 08:24 AM
Well, y'know what?  I think cards are stupid in general.  Flat-out tell them what you think of them, face to face; what's with putting it in writing?  That's quite fine if you do, of course, but FAR from necessary.

I suspect this is male/female thing. I know lots of men who don't see the point of them, so I understand what you're saying. But women like them, we like to savour stuff.

'far from necessary'? :P careful, we females like lots of things that fit that category...like flowers, chocolate. Trust me, Aqua :cool:
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Larry
Dec 6 2005, 12:19 PM
Since I own an antiques & Collectibles business, I can speak to this. Lots of people collect lots of things, and if it's collectible then it isn't going to be new usually. If the receiver of the gift has spent years collecting a particular pattern of depression glass and is only missing one or two pieces for instance, if you find those missing pieces and give it to them as a gift I can assure you they will appreciate that more than if you bought them a big screen TV or something like that. It shows that you didn't just go out and buy them something, you have taken the time to really *know* them, to know what their interests are, right down to the point of knowing what's missing in their collection. *That* is a gift!

Just because it's used doesn't mean it's not a worthy gift. It may be *the* gift.

Exactly, Larry. I collect old Barbie dolls and Barbie clothes from the early 60's. My sister went out of her way to attend a doll collector show (she's not the least bit interested in this!) to buy me a complete Barbie outfit that I wanted and was missing from my collection.

That's a gift from the heart.
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Optimistic
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Aqua Letifer
Dec 6 2005, 11:34 AM
I once bought a religious "congradulations on your promotion" card for my mom's birthday, because I thought the card was so ridiculous I couldn't pass it up.

When she read it, my mother and father just stared at it blankly while I was in stitches on the floor.

Awkward. :(

:lol:

My friend Chelsea once bought her mom a birthday card that said "Let's celebrate our African American Heritage together." Chelsea is definitely a white girl.

I don't think her mom appreciated the humour much either. Ah, 'rents.
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I must have a prodigious quantity of mind; it takes me as much as a week, sometimes, to make it up.
- Mark Twain


We shall not cease from exploration
And the end of all our exploring
Will be to arrive where we started
And know the place for the first time.
-T. S. Eliot
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Optimistic
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What was that? Chocolate?? :excited:
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I must have a prodigious quantity of mind; it takes me as much as a week, sometimes, to make it up.
- Mark Twain


We shall not cease from exploration
And the end of all our exploring
Will be to arrive where we started
And know the place for the first time.
-T. S. Eliot
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sue
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Aqua, I've done that too. I still sometimes buy a card that is just so perfect, so roll on the floor hilarious, but end up not giving it, because I know they won't get it, or it's just a little too much. But when you can make the right connection, it's a great feeling.
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Dec 6 2005, 08:38 AM
What was that? Chocolate?? :excited:

Oh heck, what did I say?!
Chocolate is necesarry, what was I thinking??? :lol:
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Aqua Letifer
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Yeah, it is nice when someone likes the card you picked out for them, but I still go with the "inappropriate, but funny to me" cards every now and then. Maybe I have a bad concept of whether or not the recipient will appreciate the joke, but I don't think so. I think I'm just selfish and like to crack my own sh!t up too much.
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sue
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Well that has merit, Aqua. You may be helping these people out. They can look over the card, mull it over later, and maybe will 'get it' after a few readings! :biggrin:
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