| Welcome to The New Coffee Room. We hope you enjoy your visit. You're currently viewing our forum as a guest. This means you are limited to certain areas of the board and there are some features you can't use. If you join our community, you'll be able to access member-only sections, and use many member-only features such as customizing your profile, sending personal messages, and voting in polls. Registration is simple, fast, and completely free. Join our community! If you're already a member please log in to your account to access all of our features: |
| It's my thread and I'll bitch if I want to!; I'm so fed up with rude people... | |
|---|---|
| Tweet Topic Started: Oct 31 2005, 12:17 PM (1,325 Views) | |
| plays88keys | Oct 31 2005, 12:17 PM Post #1 |
|
Pisa-Carp
|
Just got back from a trip to the grocery store. I don't know, maybe I'm just having an overall bad day, but I encountered a few behavioral irritants while out that just set me off. Improv once told me that he now understands why older folks are so crabby -- they've had a lifetime of putting up with annoyances and they've just stopped trying to disguise their irritation. Perhaps I've reached that point. Here's what irritated the crap out of me: Scene one: I enter the grocery store and head for the shopping carts. A woman in front of me has pulled out her cart, stopped and is now fumbling through her purse looking for something. She's now behind her cart, standing parallel in front of the two vertical lines of carts, blocking everyone else's way to get one of them, and totally oblivious to it. Another lady and I watched in amazement as she continued to fumble, then started to rearrange stuff without ever realizing there was now a growing number of people waiting for carts. Scene two: At the produce aisle, there is a cart full of groceries, sans it's owner, blocking the very section I need to get to. As I'm getting ready to move it out of the way, a big crusty lady at the other end of the aisle bellows out at me - "hey, that's my cart - leave it alone!" Well, why aren't you with it then, you witch?Scene three: The Halloween candy aisle. I venture into it to pick up one bag of stuff just in case I don't have enough for the kids out tonight. As I'm heading for the center where the Reese's cups are, this woman in her little tennis outfit comes charging through there and butts in front of me with this exaggerated sense of self-importance, parks her cart at a 45 degree angle, thereby blocking my passage, and starts rummaging through the bags on the other side of the aisle. It was just easier to turn around and leave the way I entered although what I really wanted to do was send a bag of treats into an area of her body where the sun never shines...![]() Scene four: The checkout line. The woman ahead of me was a young soccer mom who was very busy talking to several other women she knew in the lines on either side of us. TWICE she had to leave the checkout area to go get an item she had forgotten to pick up, as she explained to me "because I got distracted." Gee, ya think using a LIST might help??? ![]() I was hoping typing this out would help me purge my irritation. It didn't work. Plays, guaranteed to scare people tonight ![]() |
| You can never get enough of what you don't need to make you happy. | |
![]() |
|
| tcmod | Oct 31 2005, 12:24 PM Post #2 |
|
Senior Carp
|
I told the kid at the local bike shop that he was a real a@@hole the other day. The crowd was shocked, I was pissed. Guess my other cheek had had enough. I hate to say it, but I felt really good. Then I gave some old lady at the pool a smartass answer. When every lane is is taken, you just have to share. As soon as I lowered my adonis form into the pool she glared at me and asked "aren't there any other lanes?" I told her yes, but hers was my favorite. Old bat!! Stop putting up with the crap plays!! Go watch Michael Douglas in "falling down"
|
| Dead girls don't say no, but you still have to buy them flowers | |
![]() |
|
| jodi | Oct 31 2005, 12:25 PM Post #3 |
|
Fulla-Carp
|
Judy and Jonnie just walked in the door, Judys wearing his ring... ![]() I have days like that sometimes too. They stink, don't they? Did you say anything? I would had said "excuse me, I need to get a cart" to the first woman. I would have told second to get her fat ass back over to her cart and move it herself if she didn't want me touching it. (ok, probably wouldn't have used quite those words, but I would have thought them really loud ) I would have butted right back in front of the third lady, moved her cart, (saying "excuse me, I just need to get a bag of Reeses", while I did), and unless the soccer mom was holding up my buying groceries, I probably would have ignored her. Maybe loosened the cap on her milk carton while she was gone. (kidding) Jodi
|
Jodimy artlog ~ todayatmydesk.weebly.com | |
![]() |
|
| Freedom | Oct 31 2005, 12:28 PM Post #4 |
![]()
Senior Carp
|
feel sorry for you plays. It must be because it's Halloween everyone is evil today. I was very happy and festive with a big HAPPY HALLOWEEN sign round my neck all day at school and my vampire teeth, and all the younger ones sooo rude to me about it, like making fun of me because of my halloween get-up. I mean when I was a 1st year i wound't dare speak to seniors at all, never mind bee horrible to them. and i've seen it get progressivly worse since I came into the academy. :angry: SO you are not alone plays.
|
|
"A wise man feareth, and departeth from evil: but the fool rageth, and is confident." | |
![]() |
|
| George K | Oct 31 2005, 12:31 PM Post #5 |
|
Finally
|
Stupid people in grocery stores.... Sigh..... One time I was checking out, the clerk said to me, "Paper or Plastic?" I said, "It doesn't matter, I'm bisackual." She looked at me like I was from Mars... IT'S A JOKE DEAR! LIGHTEN UP! Sheesh.. |
|
A guide to GKSR: Click "Now look here, you Baltic gas passer... " - Mik, 6/14/08 Nothing is as effective as homeopathy. I'd rather listen to an hour of Abba than an hour of The Beatles. - Klaus, 4/29/18 | |
![]() |
|
| ivorythumper | Oct 31 2005, 12:31 PM Post #6 |
|
I am so adjective that I verb nouns!
|
Crabby old people are just older versions of selfish young ones. Don't let it happen to you. |
| The dogma lives loudly within me. | |
![]() |
|
| ivorythumper | Oct 31 2005, 12:32 PM Post #7 |
|
I am so adjective that I verb nouns!
|
:lol: :lol: :lol: Never heard that one before!!! |
| The dogma lives loudly within me. | |
![]() |
|
| ***musical princess*** | Oct 31 2005, 12:35 PM Post #8 |
|
HOLY CARP!!!
|
Ha! Ah, that gave me a good chuckle. Thankyou! ![]() x |
| x Caroline x | |
![]() |
|
| plays88keys | Oct 31 2005, 12:44 PM Post #9 |
|
Pisa-Carp
|
Bisacksual? HAHAHAHAA!!! Part of the problem is the culture I come from: southern women are taught from birth to be agreeable and to not offend or annoy others. If you're not from the region, you won't understand this, but there are LOTS of southern women out there that repress rage on a daily basis because it's not considered polite for a woman to show anger. It's gotten worse because nowdays there's such an infusion of people from "up nawth" and they don't understand the culture that they've moved into. tcmod, you're southern, don't you see this? and yes I saw that Michael Douglas movie and thought the character had a screw loose -- sort of a white collar Travis Bickle. I guess I relate more to Howard Beal. |
| You can never get enough of what you don't need to make you happy. | |
![]() |
|
| Aqua Letifer | Oct 31 2005, 12:45 PM Post #10 |
|
ZOOOOOM!
|
Directness is the best defense! If you say nothing (which is the easiest to do, and I'm victim to this myself since it takes a lot for me to get agitated sometimes), all that aggression just turns inward and that's not healthy for you. If you let all your emotions out at once, you may do something that's not appropriate for the situation (like dropping the f-bomb a couple few times). I find the best thing to do is be direct! If the lady isn't being considerate when rummaging through her crap, just say "'scuse me, mind if I grab a cart?" If she gives you a nasty look, just say "well hey, you were blocking the way here, and I just want to get through." Let them know what's up! Who cares if they don't see it, they're prob'ly not going to learn anything by your encounter, but you'll at least feel better knowing you tried to be civil. And if they're total a@@holes, randomness is sometimes the best defense! If rational discussion is out of the question, be ridiculous! |
| I cite irreconcilable differences. | |
![]() |
|
| tcmod | Oct 31 2005, 12:48 PM Post #11 |
|
Senior Carp
|
plays...it is horrible down here! there are a ton of people relocating down here because of the research triangle park and the landscape has changed a great deal. now we have so many soccer moms that have never worked a day in their lives...of course they did get their MRS degree in art history though....and they are so rude and entitled it makes me sick! You described it perfectly though. It is like any trip I make to the grocery store. Southern charm is getting hard to find. |
| Dead girls don't say no, but you still have to buy them flowers | |
![]() |
|
| ivorythumper | Oct 31 2005, 12:56 PM Post #12 |
|
I am so adjective that I verb nouns!
|
Out here in the west it's better. A well armed society is a polite society. |
| The dogma lives loudly within me. | |
![]() |
|
| Mikhailoh | Oct 31 2005, 01:00 PM Post #13 |
|
If you want trouble, find yourself a redhead
|
But, Plays, people in that part of the country are also taught to be considerate of others.. its a two way street that as of late seems to be going one way. One of the things Janet and I are just ADAMANT about is that Lauren have grace and good manners, regardless of what others do. Of course she did hear me tell someone they were a [vulgar term for rectal opening] the other day when they almost hit us as pedestrians. There are exceptions.
|
|
Once in his life, every man is entitled to fall madly in love with a gorgeous redhead - Lucille Ball | |
![]() |
|
| sue | Oct 31 2005, 01:04 PM Post #14 |
|
HOLY CARP!!!
|
"big crusty lady" I've never heard that before; I love it!It does seem to me that people are becoming more rude (ruder?). I thought for a while that it was just younger people (you know, don't parents teach their kids manners anymore kind of stuff), but I see it in older folks now too. Or maybe it's just that as I'm aging, I'm just not willing to put up with as much carp as I used to. I would've asked the woman at the carts to move aside, as she was blocking other peoples' access. But I would have prefaced it with an 'excuse me', so I guess I'm not quite a cranky old lady (yet) But I get really pissed off in parking lots, at the parking 'vultures' who block traffic while waiting for someone to come back to their car and leave.
|
![]() |
|
| QuirtEvans | Oct 31 2005, 01:05 PM Post #15 |
|
I Owe It All To John D'Oh
|
This is usually when I say "Excuse me" and move past her.
This is usually when I say, "Then you shouldn't leave it in front of things other people might want."
This is usually when I say "Excuse me" loudly. If she doesn't respond, I move her cart myself.
I don't have an answer for this one, except a good glare. Last week, I found myself stuck in line behind someone who started sorting through her coupons AFTER all her groceries had been rung up ... after a couple of minutes, I finally said, loudly, "Couldn't you have done that BEFORE you got on line?" It isn't just you, I don't tolerate that sort of stuff very well. But I'm probably a little more willing to call them out on it. No Southern upbringing here.
|
| It would be unwise to underestimate what large groups of ill-informed people acting together can achieve. -- John D'Oh, January 14, 2010. | |
![]() |
|
| Aqua Letifer | Oct 31 2005, 01:12 PM Post #16 |
|
ZOOOOOM!
|
Oh hey, that reminds me! I'm driving home from work a couple nights ago, and there's a pedestrian crosswalk on a two-lane street I use to get out of town. Now technically, yes, we all should stop for pedestrians. Well, there was no one behind me, and the couple waiting to cross the street could have started walking, and my car would not impede their path by continuing past the crosswalk. Well, they treated the situation with the same kind of tact you'd expect out of Bobcat Goldthwait. The woman just plain STAMMERED at the car in front of me. STAMMERED! "Hell-O! STOP!!!!???" I took this as an opportunity to tone her down a notch. I SLAMMED on my brakes to make sure that not only did I go from a cruising 35 mph to a dead halt (which was a VERY noisy maneuver since it was raining and the road was slick), I did so right in the middle of the crosswalk. They jumped back a little bit, and gave me quite the scowling look of death. I simply smiled and waved, but I waited until they had to walk around my car before I started moving again. I dunno if you’d consider that a “healthy response”, but I consider it a just response nonetheless. |
| I cite irreconcilable differences. | |
![]() |
|
| Jack Frost | Oct 31 2005, 01:35 PM Post #17 |
|
Bull-Carp
|
Plays, sounds like it's time to send improv to the grocery! Reminds me of a former client who was driving on a fairly deserted part of Route 1, going up a hill, when someone comes up very close behind her, tailgates and honks because she is apparently going to slowly to suit him. Finally he has an opportunity to pass her and he does. By that time, she is so angry that she then speeds up and tailgates him, honking. He taps his breaks (or at least makes the brake lights blink), and she slams on the brakes to avoid hitting him, causing her car to fishtail, leave the road, roll over twice, and come to a stop against some trees. Fortuantely, she walked away from the accident. The guy in the other car, who was from out of state, never stopped, although he must have seen in his mirror what happened. He probably to this day has no idea whether she survived. jf |
| |
![]() |
|
| Aqua Letifer | Oct 31 2005, 01:37 PM Post #18 |
|
ZOOOOOM!
|
Karma! |
| I cite irreconcilable differences. | |
![]() |
|
| mrenaud | Oct 31 2005, 02:26 PM Post #19 |
|
Middle Aged Carp
|
Older people? Well, I can't say I particularly like them. If I say "good afternoon" or something similar, I', usually met with silence, occasionally accompanied by the "how dare you speak to me?" look. If I offer them my seat in a crowded train, only very rarely do I get a "thank you". Obviously they think that I was supposed to do those things because they're older (and therefore infinitely better than me) and that it wasn't necessary to be grateful. So I started complaining. If I offer someone my seat and he/she doesn't thank me for it, I'll ask where their manners are and that I don't like my politeness being abused. They usually give me a funny look, but I hope they get the message. |
| Why is it that the world never remembered the name of Johann Gambolputty de von Ausfern Schplenden Schlitter Crasscrenbon Fried Digger Dingle Dangle Dongle Dungle Burstein von Knacker Thrasher Apple Banger Horowitz Ticolensic Grander Knotty Spelltinkle Grandlich Grumblemeyer Spelterwasser Kurstlich Himbleeisen Bahnwagen Gutenabend Bitte ein Nürnburger Bratwurstle Gerspurten Mitz Weimache Luber Hundsfut Gumberaber Shönedanker Kalbsfleisch Mittler Aucher von Hautkopft of Ulm? | |
![]() |
|
| Aqua Letifer | Oct 31 2005, 02:30 PM Post #20 |
|
ZOOOOOM!
|
You betcha! Being civil and polite is on the same level as respect, in my opinion. Recpect is NEVER given "just 'cause". You don't necessarily have to work hard to "earn" being respected, either; you just simply have to reciprocate! I'll offer my respect to a 50-year-old just as I would a 5-year old, so long as it's a 2-way street. And if it's not, I hope that I'll do my best to kindly point it out to them.
|
| I cite irreconcilable differences. | |
![]() |
|
| Klotz | Oct 31 2005, 02:34 PM Post #21 |
|
Middle Aged Carp
|
Why can't a woman be more like a man? Men are so honest, so thoroughly square; Eternally noble, historically fair. Who, when you win, will always give your back a pat. Why can't a woman be like that? Why does every one do what the others do? Can't a woman learn to use her head? Why do they do everything their mothers do? Why don't they grow up, well, like their father instead? Why can't a woman take after a man? Men are so pleasant, so easy to please. Whenever you're with them, you're always at ease. Would you be slighted if I didn't speak for hours? COLONEL PICKERING: Of course not. PROFESSOR HIGGINS: Would you be livid if I had a drink or two? COLONEL PICKERING: Nonsense. PROFESSOR HIGGINS: Would you be wounded if I never sent you flowers? COLONEL PICKERING: Never. PROFESSOR HIGGINS: Well, why can't a woman be like you? One man in a million may shout a bit. Now and then, there's one with slight defects. One perhaps whose truthfulness you doubt a bit, But by and large we are a marvelous sex! Why can't a woman take after a man? 'Cause men are so friendly, good-natured and kind. A better companion you never will find. If I were hours late for dinner would you bellow? COLONEL PICKERING: Of course not. PROFESSOR HIGGINS: If I forgot your silly birthday, would you fuss? COLONEL PICKERING: Nonsense. PROFESSOR HIGGINS: Would you complain if I took out another fellow? Pickering Never. PROFESSOR HIGGINS: Why can't a woman be like us? [dialog] PROFESSOR HIGGINS: Why can't a woman be more like a man? Men are so decent, such regular chaps; Ready to help you through any mishaps; Ready to buck you up whenever you're glum. Why can't a woman be a chum? Why is thinking something women never do? And why is logic never even tried? Straightening up their hair is all they ever do. Why don't they straighten up the mess that's inside? Why can't a woman behave like a man? If I was a woman who'd been to a ball, Been hailed as a princess by one and by all; Would I start weeping like a bathtub overflowing, Or carry on as if my home were in a tree? Would I run off and never tell me where I'm going? Why can't a woman be like me? |
| |
![]() |
|
| ***musical princess*** | Oct 31 2005, 02:35 PM Post #22 |
|
HOLY CARP!!!
|
![]() I love My Fair Lady. x |
| x Caroline x | |
![]() |
|
| Larry | Oct 31 2005, 03:04 PM Post #23 |
![]()
Mmmmmmm, pie!
|
The lady fumbling through her purse was probably just oblivious to what was happening around her. She might have been a very nice person, but someone who had already had a tough day and was tired, or just normally a little scatterbrained. She may not have been self centered, just lost in her own daily frustrations. I would have simply touched her gently on the shoulder and politely said "excuse me, could I get a cart?" Her response at that point would determine whether I melted her into the floor or made a polite acquaintence. She might have responded with something like "I'm so sorry - I didn't realize I was in the way. I've had a tough day and wasn't thinking/I've recently lost a loved one and haven't been myself lately/I'm just a bit scatterbrained sometimes". We could have both left the cart area with a smile and a good feeling about humankind. Or, she could have popped off a good sarcastic response which would have resulted in her being reduced to ashes.... I've had this happen before, and I've had both kinds of situations happen. I've had the abandoned carts blocking the shelves thing happen too. If it's just a single cart, I just move it. If there's several, I just loudly ask "whose carts are these?" Usually women come and get them with no rudeness. But - if faced with the exact situation you described, the minute the woman yelled "that's my cart, don't touch it" my immediate response back would be "I didn't see a sign outside saying "ugly fat assed woman has first dibs on all the aisles - get your ass over here and move it if you don't want someone to touch it!" When she got there to move it, I'd add a finishing touch with something like "next time you go shopping how about you try to show a little respect for the rest of the world, lady." Any further cracks from her and I'd honk up a big loogy and spit it right in the middle of her groceries.......... (not really......) Scene three: a woman in a little tennis outfit blocking the shelf while reaching across to the other side........ I'd just get right up against her and feel candy with my left hand while letting my right hand dangle near her leg, and just let it "accidentally" brush against her leg a time or two. She'd either move, or I'd get a date........ either way, I get candy! Scene four: That has happened to me as well. The first item, I just keep quiet. The second item, I ask the checkout person to please let this be the last item we have to stand there waiting for her to go get. If the woman finds a third thing she has to go get, I would say "Ma'am, obviously you haven't finished shopping. Would you mind getting out of line and doing it in the aisles like the rest of us did? It isn't my intention to stand here growing old because you aren't smart enough to make yourself a shopping list." Yes, I would say those things. I'm as polite as you'll ever meet, until I have to put up with foolishness. Then I can change on a dime. |
|
Of the Pokatwat Tribe | |
![]() |
|
| QuirtEvans | Oct 31 2005, 03:08 PM Post #24 |
|
I Owe It All To John D'Oh
|
A date? Didn't you mention that you were recently married? I do admire the sort of open relationships they have in your neck of the woods. |
| It would be unwise to underestimate what large groups of ill-informed people acting together can achieve. -- John D'Oh, January 14, 2010. | |
![]() |
|
| Klotz | Oct 31 2005, 03:15 PM Post #25 |
|
Middle Aged Carp
|
You, sir, are a male chauvinist !
|
| |
![]() |
|
| Go to Next Page | |
| « Previous Topic · The New Coffee Room · Next Topic » |



Well, why aren't you with it then, you witch?
It was just easier to turn around and leave the way I entered although what I really wanted to do was send a bag of treats into an area of her body where the sun never shines...






Jodi

feel sorry for you plays. It must be because it's Halloween
I've never heard that before; I love it!



12:34 AM Jul 11